Asking a fellow co-worker out

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OK, so there is this girl who I work with at my job that I really like. I sit with her along with a few others during break and we just talk about various subjects, joke about things and the like. So for the past few days, I've been thinking about asking her out on a date, but I've been having reservations on this for a couple of reasons.

First of all, I've known her for about 4 weeks or so and I feel that I'd be rushing it if I ask her out. I don't know how she would react to a guy who she knew for only a little while come up to her and say "Say, uh, I know that we've only known each other for a few weeks now, but do you want to go on a date sometime?"

That and there is this nervous feeling that I'm having that she all ready has a boyfriend. She mentioned that she used to date someone from a few years back, and never mentioned if she dates anyone now, but if my luck with women is a sign of anything, theres a chance that she has a boyfriend and therefore, makes me wonder if it's worth a try.

What do you guys think? Should I go for it anyway?

Mmmmmm.

yes.

go for it.

can't hurt to ask.

ask around to see if she is seeing anybody if you feel she might be.

if you think she is even mildly into you, chances are she'll say yes if you ask her out.

Talk to her....

"So what did you do on the weekend...."

then ....

"Oh, wow, that sounds like fun. Did you go by yourself?"

If she's got a boyfriend it might become obvious...

then you can kill him just kidding... then you have to find another girl...

Just be cautious.

Remember the first rule of ethics: "Don't s**t where you eat"

DON'T DO IT!

It is not good idea to date people you work with.
4 weeks is not a long time regarding being friends with a work colleague and then asking out. If it was a social situation then 4 weeks of 'choosing' to talk regulary is more of an indication but it is work and so it is captive environment.
She/you will probably be embarassed to see each other everyday if she turns you down and it could make you unhappy to go to work
Enjoy the friendship and see how things go over a much longer time. If she is interested then the conversations etc will continue and she may even ask you out.

Well, it depends on where you work.

If you regard this as a temporary gig, then go for it.

However, if you hope to remain employed there for a very long time and to build a career, then be very cautious.

It is all too easy for people with our condition to give and receive wrong impressions.

I agree with the two posts above mine. While I think absolute statements (always, never) aren't a good idea to subscribe to, proceed with caution at the very least. I say this from personal experience - this could turn into a nightmare for you.

Take it extremely slow. Don't rush to ask her out, get to know her slowly. If down the road, all the signs are there that it could work out, she seems like a mature individual, and she's interested (as in obvious signs - she asks you or someone you trust tells you she wants you to ask her), then go for it.

One more thing, try and prevent yourself from getting emotionally attached to her. It will cloud your judgment and prevent you from being able to form a realistic opinion about her.

Only bit of advice I can give you, don't. Workplace relationships = Generally bad idea.

Don't do it. It's never a good idea to date in the workplace. You can talk to her, have lunch with her, or just socialize during downtime. You can even do some innocent (which means strictly non-sexual, non-romantic) flirting, although that would take some skills in picking out the right moment. Unless it's a temporary office gig, a retail job, or a seasonal park district job, look for dates outside of work. On a side note, when I worked at a park district pool, I saw a lot of people dating; by the end of the summer, I think everyone but me and a few other guys were paired up.

My sister has dated somebody from work for a year and they live together. They have known each other for several years.

They are both in the same department but broke different areas. I don't think they have time to mess around, nor is it the sort of thing they would do. My sister spends half the time rushing around the city as does he.

I think it is a question of attitude and maturity. At first they did keep it absolutely secret. The also went different directions to the station. After a while they told their boss and he was ok with it. However they don't really shout about it either.

If you are always expecting to lunch together all the time or come home the same time then forget it.

I was just considering starting a topic similar to this, as there is a girl I work with that I find myself growing more and more interested in. I just don't know if she has a boyfriend, and my big fear is that she ends up being under 18... Being 23 myself that has potential to blow up in my face if that turns out to be the case. But considering she is also a cashier, I don't know for sure if my employer requires cashiers to be a certain age or not. But regardless of dating or not, she strikes me as someone I would really like to get to know better, as I just don't get enough time to talk to her at work since we are always busy(Its a toy store, its December, so yeah) and work different shifts, and being in the same department take lunch at different times on the days we do work together.

But considering I'm just seasonal, I should probably just give it a shot, given that I'll be likely looking for a new job next month anyways.