Hi all, I'm curious - I usually cannot stand being touched, if I'm not expecting it, it's like being scalded. Short backstory, I never kissed anybody growing up. I never understood why pecking people on the cheek was so commonplace, especially between mother-child. A longtime friend cried because I didn't hug her when she moved away to another province, because of my aversion to expressing emotion/whatever. No experience with anything sexual before this, I was a right 'frigid' one, my promiscuous friends enjoyed teasing me about this for years until they dropped it for some reason, I guess they matured. But now, after having a significant other (long distance, was terribly anxious about the whole issue when I met him the first time); it seems to be the exact opposite. The lightest touch will be electric, and even him just applying pressure on my neck drives me wild. He doesn't understand why it feels so good to me. Is it just the person doing the touching, how close you are to them? Is it common to have both extremes?