How much of a good partner do you think you would be?

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Personally I'm scared about what kind of partner I'd be. At the moment I'm affectionate, patient and giving but I suspect that's only because I'm starved of these situations. I'm afraid at some point I'd snap, and while I don't think I could ever really be abusive I'm not sure I'd be any fun to be with. By nature I'm pretty self-involved and if the ability to subdue that is something that can run out things could turn messy.

I think I'd be the partner that wants to do the right thing but does things the wrong way. So I can only hope for my partner to see what I wanted to do instead of what I actually did

I have made an absolute mess of my marriage. I don't think my X helped the situation in any way though. I think any aspie hoping to enter a long term relationship has a lot of hard work ahead of themselves. We have 2 children one who is Autistic, that made life even harder for both of us.

My aspie traits infuriated not only my X but a lot of other people as well. Once I started getting sex I could never get enough. I'm addicted to it now and if I didn't get what I wanted or needed just like drugs, I would be moody and inconsoleable. The thing is when we first started having sex, it was her who wanted it every night/day or even twice a day. Then you get married and frequency seems to imediately drop. Add children to the equation and it becomes virtually non existant. I felt that I had been sucked in some how and then rejected.

Nowadays I just prefer sex without having a relationship, its much more fun and a lot easier to avoid conflict.

I'd be a good boyfriend under certain conditions. For example, if my girlfriend expected me to do or enjoy things that I either could not or would not do, then there would be problems. If my girlfriend expected me to eat foods I knew I hated, or partake in BDSM, or go on roller coasters with her (which frighten the living hell out of me), then there would be problems. But if she was understanding of all my issues then I could be a very good boyfriend: passionate, committed, romantic. I would put my heart and soul into a relationship with someone I cared about, making sure to make special days special, and accepting whatever flaws she had, giving her support, and love, and affection...always striving to creating those sweet, romantic little moments. I would even push my boundries a little and try things for the sake of someone I loved, things that I normally would never try--but at the same time there'd still be plenty of things I would never do. So it would really depend on who I was in a relationship with and how accepting they were of my difficulties.