My current situation

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I just want to put this out there and see what anyone else thinks...

First off, the current girl I'm sort of seeing, I'm getting tired of. Really, I don't know what to do with this situation anymore. Her apathy about our "friendship", no time to do anything, can't get her to really talk to me... it's just fustrating and it's almost at the point of me cutting her out completely. I don't understand what kind of friends she wants to be.
So she doesn't want to date me, I get it, but she'd rather be friends, so I'll try that... but it's just not working IMO. I don't feel like her friend. She says we haven't talked in a while(well no duh) but she won't give me time to talk with her.
I try to build myself up to be positive, approach her again, but it's becoming disappointment again and again.
Know what, I'm tired of even talking about it, next subject.

I want an opinion on this...
I'm starting to think that there may be another girl at work who is interested in me.
As bizarre as it seems... I was really starting to get that vibe today. There's this other newer girl, I've only worked with her a couple times so far... but... she eyes me a lot. Almost every time today I have caught her looking at me whenever she can(with a smile). She's approached me several times just commenting about random stuff at work and being a little silly. She is rather cute, so I'm enjoying the attention.
I don't really know much about her though, but I'm thinking of talking her up a bit more when I see her again on Tuesday.

My logic says... Are you nuts trying to jump from one work relationship to another?
But my reason says... You'd be stupid to pass up opportunities for dating., especially if the girl seems like she is interested. First girl doesn't really want you, then give somebody else a chance.

I was almost going to try to ask her out... but I decided to hold off, think about it for a couple days. It might just really be nothing.

Any comments?

1. Stop trying to make plans with previous girl. Let her come to you. She says you don't talk to her any more? Tell her to make some plans and you'll show up when she wants, and then see what happens.

2. Only way to find out if someone likes you is to ask, man. Or if you can flirt, then go for that.

It takes two to make a relationship work, if girl #1 won't make time for you then move on. It's her loss.

Ask the other girls out, no reason for you to not date more than one. Have some fun.

Thank you for the comments, I will keep them in mind.

Not claiming to be an expert on these matters, Zara, but it seems to me that your view of the circumstances makes perfect sense.

Lol and sigh together... ha...

Well, that was interesting.
Girl 2 kept up her behavior towards me todays, even though I really didn't have any time to talk to her and kept busy all day. Know what?, there's a smoothie cafe just a bit from work so I think I'll ask her out for a smoothie after work Saturday and chit chat with her some. If she doesn't want to, not a big deal.

Now... girl 1 again... wow.
There was definitely something up today.
Simply put, she was avoiding me to the best of her ability, going so far as even hide her face from me. No words between us... I thought about asking her what was up but didn't. Mind you we haven't said a thing to each other since I asked why she didn't come to work Friday.
Sigh... I could have been perfectly happy to ignore her if she just acted like her normal apathic self, but now she just has to start acting weird.

I wonder why she would start this... I haven't show my frustration to her.
Anybody think I should try saying something to her? I don't if I should... I do feel a bit concerned for her.

Don't say anything to her. If she is avoiding eye contact and hiding then just keep walking. Just let her be in her misery.

I think girl #1 might be avoiding you. If she is, just move on, and don't worry about it.