Possible Signs You Should Move On

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I may be no great success in romantic relationships (or relationships in general, for that matter), but I've met all kinds of people and talked to women all across the great spectrum of life. Sometimes you have to exercise some discretion and realize things aren't going to work out:

The Groupie
"High five! Awesome! Hehe!" Back in high school, my brother had a couple of female friends who were always saying everything anyone did was the coolest thing ever. After about a minute, it gets really old and annoying. It's not the hardcore sycophancy of a professional flatterer, but it rubbed me the wrong nonetheless.

The Paranoiac
"I bet they're reading this conversation right now. I've said bad things about the President before." Okay, maybe with the excesses of the Bush administration, she may not have been too far off the mark, but the idea that Secret Agents are secretly reading her every instant messenger conversation is a little paranoid. It's hard to say whether she was truly delusional or if it was just a pose that's popular in her social circle, but it's offputting either way.

The Control Freak
"These clothes would be nice for you" (said of some sappy clothes when she was not even involved in any kind of relationship with me besides chatting on AIM and MySpace and having once briefly lived in the same dormitory back in college). We went from discussing dating and ways to meet women (I already knew she was not my type because she was too conservative and religious) to her saying she wanted to take me shopping for clothes and began showing me some websites with stodgy clothes.

The Soap Opera Actress
Some people don't seem to realize that, just because it's on TV, doesn't mean you have to live your life that way. Some people need there to be conflict and acrimony, or else life gets boring. Things like neurotically wanting things in two mutually exclusive ways at the same time, changing one's mind back and forth, compulsive lying, and rage attacks are sure to make things unnecessarily complicated.

Trouble
"Do you own a gun?", "Do you still do pot?" are questions I asked her on the first (and last) date. Everything was going superbly until she dropped a few bombs about her recent past. Friendly, open, attractive, free spirited—but risky.

The Homebody
She has no interest in venturing anywhere outside her comfort zone and would rather spend most of her time alone doing nothing of any great importance. She is not willing to make any effort to get along and seems as though she'd be happier just by herself, which makes you wonder why she's trying to socialize in the first place.

The Snob
Nothing's good enough for her—including you. She'll tell you gladly how right she is about any topic under the sun and how you and everybody else is wrong—always. She has terms of contempt for pretty much everyone: idiots, mouth-breathers, the unwashed masses. She expects luxuries unbidden. You probably won't be able to tolerate her long enough to find out this much about her.

Single Mother
She'll send out her little boy and instigate/allow him to try to play with you to show that you're just "so good with kids." You wouldn't want to let the little guy grow up without a proper father figure, would you? This stunt may be pulled while you're idling at a local park, swimming at your community pool, or elsewhere. Online, they will use enticing photos of themselves to get your attention, and then a paragraph later you will discover that "Little [name] is the love of my life!" and reams of photos of their child.

The Flying Spaghetti Monster
You can't make out with a noodly appendage, and that's just the first problem. It has delusions of grandeur: that it and not the God Almighty created life and even the universe itself. It's not even human.

Edit: Added the Single Mother.

Last edited by NeantHumain on 29 Nov 2008, 6:17 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Wait, how is this a control freak?

Good ones, love the descriptions.

There's also a male version of all of these you know. Unfortunately, I've dated a few of them.

These are all people I don't think I've ever known, with the possible exception of the "soap opera actress".

Nothing wrong with that. In fact that sounds just like me. Love to find someone that wants to stay home as much as I do.

I'm not sure how much I believe in the "homebody". No mentally fit man/woman is an island. Whenever a woman acts like that around me, I consider one of three conclusions: a) she doesn't like my company, b) she is mentally unfit, e.g. clinically depressed, or c) there is something in her character I've missed, maybe something she's hiding or something she is not a good enough communicator to reveal. I guess I do agree it's a warning sign, but there's usually a bit more to the story.

I've been a 'homebody' for a while now. It's due to circumstances making me depressed. I wouldn't say I'm unfit mentally because of it, it's just that 's**t happens,' as it were.

But you're absolutely right, otherwise. It's not healthy. My being like this, definitely not healthy. It's a sign of avoidance, depression, lack of motivation because of either, schizoidism, and possibly even worse. But if she has a child, it can be different. The women I know who've had kids definitely stop desiring so much social time, and that's natural.

Just things to consider.

Addendum: I won't be a homebody for long. It's back to my gypsy ways in the near future, and there's no way to be a homebody like that!

It was her level of insistence and persistence about it. We weren't even that close of friends, and she definitely didn't understand how grossly her taste differed from mine.

Hahah, ok, that makes more sense. I just figured she was doing the typical woman thing where she thought you'd look good in something. Even I've been there, much as I hate to admit it. I just wouldn't insist, both since that's there choice and, well, I really wouldn't care.

Why anyone would care, that's where I get caught up.

The Soap Opra Actress
when Shakespeare said " All the world's a stage, And all the men and women merely players;"this lady took it to heart! However she is producing this show and has cast herself as the starring character, with all and sundry around her merely spear carriers in her play, playing her foil or foe as m'lady's whim dictates. If your ears can stand her caterwauling in joy and sadness and your adrinal glands can keep pumping and as long as you are a trusty spear carrier, you will have her countenance shine upon you, if you want a different role, the baggage that you might have to carry may daunt a far hardier man.

Legions of straight women and gay men will disagree with you on that one

OHHHHHH, you went there.

I hate it how single mothers refer to their sons as the "love of my life!"......
That is SO creepy, if you think a little bit about the implications of it.

Oh, I'd give them benefit of the doubt there. But the real implication you have to worry about is that any guy who gets together with her is dispensible, and had better fall in line or else.

Covert incest, anyone?