What do women look for in a male body?

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Actually if you are using linebackers as a guide most of them are 255-265 pounds.

Lol, I almost believed that for a second, that would be interesting to say the least

You do!

My mum is 5'8" and my housemate is 6'4". I'm used to tall women.

Oh no... I'm skinny with a very hairy chest... the worst of both worlds?

And I would say either way, what you describe is more like the kind of straight guy that gay guys tend to long after (though in eachother, they tend to prefer toned, low-body fat, and not a lot of hair), and not so much with women. They really aren't that into the muscle thing, generally (with some exceptions). I think a lot of the female responses have shown this.

We've watched too much mass media over the years that has drilled unrealistic expectations into our heads about what the other gender wants. Women now think that all guys want anorexic barbie dolls, and men now think women all want 8% body fat pro-wrestler types with huge phalluses.

Neither is true. While there will be people who buy into the media hype, or are overly picky about one body type, most of us, when it comes down to it, are attracted to a wide variety of body types, as nature intended. These body types reflect different states of health, fertility, and genetic fitness. I myself like women who are: a) voluptuous (large boobs, large butt and hips, proportionate waist) b) skinny (like many Asian women are) or c) something else. The Pam Anderson look doesn't look healthy to me (she was always seriously underweight, which is why she needed implants to have big boobs), and there's always the mental consideration as well. I want someone smart to help me carry on my genes, and someone whose body reflects smart or healthy body decisions in how they live (no fat guts on women, for instance). Wide hips are a must for me, and that's just reflecting our pre-C section need for a woman to actually be able to squeeze a baby out of a birth canal without dying during labor.

I am about 6'4 to 6'6 and weigh 140-145 pounds. I've had no luck. I'm can't guess what women want.

I'm sure that someone likes that somewhere, but generally, that's really skinny. You should probably have another 30-40 pounds on that frame, mostly muscle. I see by your age that you are still very young though, and haven't hit the 2nd round of "weight gain" years yet. I went from 160 to 200 from age 18-22. I think you'll fill out pretty quickly -- but if it bugs you, get a weight lifting regimen together, and start taking in protein shakes first thing in the morning, and first thing at night.

I recommend this book from Stuart McRobert -- he's a strong advocate of not overtraining, which is a big problem for most of us hard-gainers. If you weren't a hard-gainer, you'd probably be muscular by now. Most of us have a hard time putting on or keeping on muscle, while a genetically gifted few put it on easily, even when they are doing everything wrong. You don't want to get weight lifting advice from someone like that, because their advice can hurt you and set you back, even though it works for them.

Vlad the Impaler?

Not necessarily, as I said the current younger generation seems to like skinny men. Not sure what things are like where you live but a lot of young men I know now shave their chest, legs, underarms and forearms, so perhaps if you are skinny and shave your chest things will even out.

Oddly enough so many young men I worked with shaved their forearms and even my chiropractor did so as a woman I was feeling suddenly overly hairy and started shaving my own forearms. This is a weird new society we are creating.

Guys can also build more muscle weight by paying attention to their hormone levels and not lowering their testosterone. A lot of guys just don't understand certain foods lower their testosterone level such as fatty meats, milk, eggs and soy. Guys are already facing an uphill battle because of all the excessive Estrogen in the water supply and plastic food and water containers. People also don't know that extreme overtraining where the testosterone builds up to a certain level and then it will convert into estrogen. So there is truth in not overtraining. (The way to detect this short of a bloodtest is when bodybuilders suddenly start getting real bitchy and moody its a sign they are making too much estrogen). Also guys with extremely overactive thyroids, ie: the tall skinny guys with bulging eyes and adams apple will end up estrogen dominate eventually. You have to dig deeply into endrocrinology texts to find out this sort of info. I'm a endrocrine system fanatic so its just some of the weird trivia I have remembered over the years.

Fatty meats milk eggs and soy decrease testosterone?? Jeez, that's what I've been eating to get bigger! What foods boost testosterone???

I agree. Me too. Although not muscular guys, I don't like men who workout and have overly-developed muscles, ew. But fairly athletic and trim but not over the top, yes.

If you get to know a guy and like his personality and who he is, then those other things grow on you, like the first time I had a relationship with a guy who was quite hirsuit, had a very hairy chest, when previously I'd dated bare chested guys. At first I was a bit unsure, didn't particularly like it, but then it grew on me, I mean I grew to like it. But then later, after we'd broken up, and I ended up in a relationship with a different guy who had a bare chest again, I liked that too. Likewise going from skinny to athletic to podgy with lovehandles. Yeah, it was nice that a guy had a firm body and peachy bum, but then again, a different partner, had lovely squidgy lovehandles. And I've been in relationships with guys who are very handsome, but others who were more average looking. If you like them as a person, you like the package they come in, whatever shape or size or 'flaws'.

It really, truly matters less what they look like, and more what kind of person they are. In fact, some of the really handsome guys can be arrogant @rseholes. Some of the more average looking guys can be more genuine, less superficial people.

Personally speaking, I like guys who are intelligent, preferably who read and are interested in the arts and are a bit outdoorsy but not too much extreme sports-like, preferably someone who's interest in current affairs and politics and social justice, who have a good sense of humour and sense of fun so we can enjoy one another's company, and I'm a sucker for a guy with an altruistic streak, so I'd probably be more inclined to date a guy who, say, was a bike riding environmental or humanitarian charity worker (so fairly low paid) as opposed to a high earning engineer or executive working in the oil industry who drives a Hummer (in fact I'd be more inclined not to date a man who projected his status through a car).

Although, of course, having said all that, a millionaire philanthropist would be the best of both worlds!

Seriously though, if it was a choice between a wealthy corporate lawyer who drove a BMW, but was very materialistics and self-centred, or a campaigning journalist (journalism pays a lot less than corporate law) who reported on homelessness and poverty and child trafficking or something, and I clicked with them both in terms of getting on with them and enjoying their company, then it would be absolutely no contest I'd go for the lower paid but altruistic guy.

Wealth is not just measured in terms of $$$$$ y'know. There are other ways of leading a rich and fulfilling life.

Is that a porn star?

LOL soy contains estrogen, it's highly recommended for menopausal women

what you need is protein, not testosterone anyway. and don't take steroids, they make your testicles disappear

It's always been rumored that muscled machos have tiny ....confidence.