What do women look for in a male body?

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I have heard a number of times over the years that scars on a mans face can give him character. Even something like an eye patch, or a missing tooth!

Any ladies out there care to elaborate how scars on a mans face will give him more character? ...and how that might make him more attractive... or at least more interesting.

I'm curious to understand this better.

My guess would be that every scar has an interesting story behind it. Some are incredibly stupid, while others can be very fascinating, but the point is that something had to happen to make that scar appear...

^I think you are on the right track, but I also think scars show women that we're adventurous, rugged, etc..... If you tell a woman that you got a scar from bullfighting or something(as long as you actually did), she's going to think "wow, this guy isn't a p****". She might also think "wow, this guy is stupid" but she probably isn't into scars anyhow. Then again, maybe I just watch too much TV.....

I know you aren't talking about my post alone, but I have to point out: I didn't say that men "must" have this feature, and "must" have that one. The original post was asking about physical traits women find attractive, so I answered the question! I did feel, though, that I had to let iddqd know that for myself and my circle of friends, it is DEFINITELY the personality that ranks over the physical when it comes to deciding how attracted we are to a man. Okay, maybe it's a cliché to say it, but jeez - it's because (for me, anyway!) it really is true.

And for the record, I've never been with a man with a six-pack, I've only once been with one who was taller than me (and not by much!), and all of 'em you could pinch an inch on their "love-handles". So there you go - of course I have my theoretical physical preferences, which is what the thread was asking for, but in practice, as long as the guy is healthy, when it comes to the physical, I don't follow them. I'm sure there are women out there who are brutal about choosing their prospective partners based appearance (as there are definitely men!) but trust me, there are lots of women who aren't.

Ok whatever.

But a chemistry can't be initiated withpit any physical attraction , so if a guy doesn't have any physical feature that you find it attractive then no chemistry can take place ,so personality alone can't be enough to determine how attracted you for a man.

As long you have a theoretical physical preferences then you subconsciously would seek for these preferences , again that's not something wrong , it's just human nature.

Last edited by LePetitPrince on 25 Feb 2009, 11:46 am, edited 1 time in total.

The point you're making sounds like one I would have considered, just taking "human nature" to be the way I feel about girls. Most of what initially attracts me to women is purely physical, whether we click can seal the deal for me wanting to pursue a relationship but that's the second step. I'm guessing it's a pretty "male" way to think.

But what about people who get to know each other online? You can connect with someone and definitely feel attraction to them and have no clue as to what they look like. That's when personality comes first, looks come second.

I've never had a really serious internet crush on any girl/woman who didn't give a good impression (with clear, face-on pictures) of what they looked like, and I doubt I ever will.

I completely disagree with this statement. I was attracted to my husband for personality alone. I do not find him physically attractive in the least. But I was physically attracted and turned on by him based on the fact that I loved him for his (perceived at the time) personality. I made a conscious decision to love him even though I find him physically unattractive because I did not believe that looks mattered at all. If his personality had held up to my expectations, I probably would not regret my descision.

Simple, online love is based on fantasies, on illusion, no real chemistry can be established via online communication only.

^ Actually, I can agree with that.

Perhaps not chemistry, but online romance can easily become offline love once the 2 parties actually meet face to face.

That sounds a lot like "The shortest way to a man's heart is through his ribcage". I really hope the bodies in which you look for vital organs are dead before you start looking. Are you, perhaps, a pathologist?

True. But it is primarily based on fantasy. However, I would say the same about the early stages of any romance. *shrug*

...but if you were dating someone (while you were dating the man who became your husband) with very similar personality (almost the same) yet he's much physically hotter than him ,and then you have to decide which one to pick then who would be?

No offense, but when you have access to only 5 rotten-like apples and you want to eat one so badly , but one of these rotten-like apple has a good smell then you gonna pick to eat that rotten apple, but if there's a 6th beautiful apple with nice smell (yes,smell represents personality here) too then you gonna pick this 6th apple, mating is also about availability.

And since you are admitting that you don't find your husband attractive in the least (and I noticed that you have used the present for of verb do and not the past) then why you don't tell him that to face and post me here how was his reaction?

As for what you said that you are "physically attracted and turned on by him based on the fact that you loved him for his (perceived at the time) personality" while you find "find him physically attractive in the least" is something hard to believe, at least for me.

I would believe better if you said that you didn't find physically attractive at first and then later , after knowing him well, you started finding him physically attractive because of his nice personality.