23 Feb 2009, 1:13 pm
Where, oh where did this ridiculous society myth that love and sex are Not mutually exclusive come from?
Women love to promulgate it and in relationships they pretend that its true but even THEY no better than that. For example, I one read an article about how to explain sex to children starting with: When a man and woman really love each others....... 
GAH! That sh*t makes me wanna PUKE!
23 Feb 2009, 1:42 pm
23 Feb 2009, 2:05 pm
TV often depicts sex without love (and there are over 9000 fairy tales where the inverse is depicted, in order to save the *precious* innocence of little children
) which leads to the assumption that they have to be separate entities... although they need not mutually exclusive in a relationship, and one can certainly lead to the other, but to say that they are anything but two separate entities is just plain bullshit...
23 Feb 2009, 2:29 pm
I would not want to have sex with someone I wasn't in love with. I've done it just because I wanted to be like everyone else. They seemed to be having fun. It was just awkward for me.
I think guys can have sex without being in love and they may even think girls are weak for not being able to not care. This used to bother me and I tried to overcome my emotions by trying to view sex like a man. I found that it was just 2 dimensional, meaningless, and base.
For me, and I suspect many other girls, the whole body orgasm makes the genital one seem dull. A clitoris has many more nerve ending than does the tip of a penis. Therefore, we can have a similar male orgasm experience but still, the whole body love connection orgasm is far more extraordinary.
So, men don't need and often don't want love with sex. Women need love to have the ultimate orgasm. It's an evolutionary joke to make us suffer. 
23 Feb 2009, 2:31 pm
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23 Feb 2009, 2:43 pm
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23 Feb 2009, 2:45 pm
I think you should never have sex with someone you don't love. It just doesn't make any sense. I know it feels good and all, but why would you do that? 
23 Feb 2009, 3:03 pm
ASPERGERS assumption???
Buddy, lemme tell ya: Ive met PUH-LEN-TY of NTs of both sexes who have agreed with me that they are Not the same thing and they CAN be mutually exclusive. Just because the may be present simulatanously it is illogical to conclude that they imply one another! I have met people whom I wanted to have sex with but I did NOT love them, AND vice versa. You can love somebody yet not feel any sort of physical attraction to them.
23 Feb 2009, 3:07 pm
I think guys can have sex without being in love and they may even think girls are weak for not being able to not care. This used to bother me and I tried to overcome my emotions by trying to view sex like a man. I found that it was just 2 dimensional, meaningless, and base.
For me, and I suspect many other girls, the whole body orgasm makes the genital one seem dull. A clitoris has many more nerve ending than does the tip of a penis. Therefore, we can have a similar male orgasm experience but still, the whole body love connection orgasm is far more extraordinary.
So, men don't need and often don't want love with sex. Women need love to have the ultimate orgasm. It's an evolutionary joke to make us suffer.
Excuse me Magnus, but many men DO have a need for love and there ARE women who can enjoy sex with a man despite not actually loving him. Speak for yourself, and not for all women. Im not chastizing you simply for generalizing, Im simply pointing out that I dont think this particular generalization about women is accurate. Women in fact are JUST as shallow and superficial as men are but they do a much better job at pretending not to be.
23 Feb 2009, 3:59 pm
TV often depicts sex without love (and there are over 9000 fairy tales where the inverse is depicted, in order to save the *precious* innocence of little children
) which leads to the assumption that they have to be separate entities... although they need not mutually exclusive in a relationship, and one can certainly lead to the other, but to say that they are anything but two separate entities is just plain bullshit...I think there might be some truth to that depending on the person.
Take Grey's Anatomy for instance, everytime someone "loves" a person they just met in one day, they're suddenly in bed together and still have feelings for eachother after that. I not only find this very unrealistic but kind of upsetting if a teenager was to watch how people behave when they're in love.
I was raised with two parents who seem to be best friends now. So maybe this might be the reason why I don't think they're seperate.
Again it depends and yes even women will only get with a guy for sex. I'm not sure how love and sex intertwine since I've never really experienced love but I hear couples all the time about how much they love eachother and how well their sex lives are going...including old people.....
23 Feb 2009, 4:14 pm
23 Feb 2009, 4:45 pm
23 Feb 2009, 6:18 pm
ASPERGERS assumption???
Buddy, lemme tell ya: Ive met PUH-LEN-TY of NTs of both sexes who have agreed with me that they are Not the same thing and they CAN be mutually exclusive. Just because the may be present simulatanously it is illogical to conclude that they imply one another! I have met people whom I wanted to have sex with but I did NOT love them, AND vice versa. You can love somebody yet not feel any sort of physical attraction to them.
I'll be blunt since you're being so condascending to me - read what I said more carefully and try again.
24 Feb 2009, 12:18 am
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