How to date. question mark.
Sos, I am an aspie. I have not really gotten used to calling myself that quite yet. As I have had a miserable life trying to be normal. IT DIDN"T QUIte work out very well! as I am sure you would know.
Now, I am pretty good looking as people tellme, tall phsically fit.. I get looks from women from time to time... I also play guitar well... Music is my "aspie obsession' So I think thats kinda what women like.
Problem is I don't know how to socialize.. No.. two gf's i had were only because they were my sisters friends. and they were extremely persistant aggressive with me.. and thats only way it works..
So now what? I nearly ruined my sisters friendships by doing this.. I don't want to rely on waiting for some opportunity like that.. besides I never end up being with a girl I really like this way...
I also can't pick up ques.. or they only occur after the fact.. after thinking about it for awhile. I don't know.. maybe I just avoid it so I don't get so nervous...
Is there a book or something?
you could just go for the quick f**k.
failing that, i still have no idea.
You'll probably have to piece together the necessary information from a number of sources - see the Books section of this website.
I'm currently reading The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships, by Temple Grandin & Sean Barron, which looks promising as a way to break things down into specific concepts.
This appears to be a significant hurdle for the majority of us on the Spectrum. Personally, I had girlfriends in high school and college - but not since then, because I have no idea how to "date."
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By the way - welcome to WP!
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I checked out the website; this book is amazing! Thanks for the link. I'm going to buy the book next time I can get to a bookstore.
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