Breaking The Ice?

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I know, you all are probably getting sick of my threads. I just have a new problem.

This guy and I were 'talking' for a long time, and I was confused about it. His friends would refer to us as 'boyfriend and girlfriend', which made me wonder if he was, in fact, telling people that we were together officially. I finally found the courage to ask him about it last week.

We made it official... but I'm still confused.

I have an awful time reading people correctly, and this situation is near impossible for me to figure out. Even though we ARE officially a couple, still nothing has changed since we were just friends. It's the physical aspect that's really throwing me off here. He's put his arm around me once - and we weren't even *official* then. That's it. No hand-holding, rarely ever a hug, no kisses, no anything. It just seems strange to me. My last boyfriend made all these moves, or at least attempted to, early on.

My question is: should I start making the moves? We actually did talk about it, and he said that he just didn't know when to make a move. I told him that whenever he decided to, I wouldn't mind, so he would feel comfortable enough to do so. He still hasn't. Should I grab his hand? I've never been on this end of things before.

some men enjoy having the woman take a little initiative. If he considers it official, there's a good chance he likes you... So yeah, go for it. Chances are he's more confused and nervous about it than you are!

I hope that's it. The fact that he's quite possibly the most outgoing person I know is the most confusing part. I'm thinking (best case scenario) the fact that he is so nervous around me means he really does like me a lot...

I plan on at least holding his hand next time we're together. It's just finding the courage. I don't want to freak him out, but at the same time, if nothing progresses then where is the relationship going?

Thanks for your advice!