Feeling like you been taken for a fool

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Have you ever felt like somone is playing you for a fool or building your hopes up just to knock you down again.

I have a funny feeling thats going to happen to me.

How could i spot the signs and stop myself becomeing a victim.

Maria
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This has happened to me so any times I don't even know where to start. I think people see someone with a trusting nature and naturally prey on it. The only advice I can give (which it took me years and years to put into practice myself) is to be very choosy with who you decide to get close to. There ARE certain indicators of someone trying to take advantage of you. I'm specifically really wary of people who over-flatter, agree with everything I say, and ask a lot of favours but give nothing in return. They sound pretty obvious, but they're often not if you're not looking for them.

mmmmmmm interesting thank you.

Maria
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I Think Aspies in general are very prone to being taken advantage of, due to us generally being very loyal, trusting people who take everything at face value and often fail to see the malingent/ manipulative sides to people sometimes. We just want to believe everyone we interact with is as non-judgemental and honest as us, which unfortunately often isn't the case.

I agree with everything RoisinDubh j/k

Seriously this is a hard topic. I think the most important clue somebody is honest is if the person shows things that are personal. So not only flatery of you or not just practical things, but truly personal things. People that are playing with you will probably not want to get in too deep.

Specifically, if they're sharing personal things as well as expecting you to....some of the best ones I've met at taking advantage will expect you to share everything, they'll share absolutely nothing, and then later on, use what you've told them against you.

Can you tell I'm a big, fat cynic?

Well, a little. Probably it's easier for me as a male, plus I am very uninteresting for anyone who's not my kind.

Most of the time, I'm fabulously uninteresting to anyone who doesn't want to take advantage of me.

Honesty + trusting nature + generosity to a fault + eagerness to please = disaster.

thats the thing i always read the sings wrong and it has got me into trouble so many times. And quite serious trouble resulting in me getting hurt physically..

I think i always get too close to quick and think that it may be my downfall.

I let people know almost everything about me when i meet them and i really need to get out of the habbit of doing that!

Maria

A lot of these people like this can be considered Narcissists, or they may have some other mental problem. Aspies, as well as other vulnerable, gullible, and naive people, are all easy prey for these people.

Just look around on the net for tips on how to spot and avoid these types of people.