I am not meant to have friends.

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another reason why i ain't got no precious lil "friends", is that precious lil "people" act so morally innocent. they act like they have never done anything wrong before. especially when they tell me that i did something wrong or bad.

they act like i ought to treat them like they dragged my worthless corpse out of a burning building.

talking takes so. much. energy.

oftentimes they miss the point. then they ask questions for the sake of asking questions, as if they are doing me a personal favor by asking questions.

it takes so much effort to explain the slightest thing. phrase. articulate. verbalize. and there are so many methods of misunderstanding. and if they understand correctly, then what? whooptie do

shortfatuglybaldman,

Those same people who act "Innocent" often seem to get incredibly defensive by putting up a wall and pointing their finger you.

It's
"You are so disrespectful and you do this and you do that. You're so selfish, how dare you do this to me?"

Believe me, I have seen that so many times with people who say they are our "Friends."

Summer twilight

Exactly. You can't measure respect.

When I do something they do not like, they say it is "disrespectful" or "rude". And the word "disrespectful" is like a Trump card

Almost everyone that I have ever interacted with is so judgmental. If they like something you said or allegedly did they say "cool" or "awesome"

If they do not like what you said or did they say "why?". As if there is a correct answer, but your answer is not correct. Wrong. There is no correct answer. (According to them)

Then when you say something that they think is bad, that they did not cause they say """that sucks" or "I'm sorry to hear that"........

In life you take the good along with the bad.

Not everything is going to be "cool" according to your

You do have rights and emotions

But you do not have the right to get, do, and become whatever you want whenever you want

Double standards

Some extroverts are so emotional. Theatrical. Dramatic

Personally sometimes I feel so emotional, but I do not act like I have a moral right to be happy at all times. Unlike entitled lil extroverts

shortfatbalduglyman,

Tell me about double standards with these people as it is so hypocritical.
I have had people get upset with me for "Gossiping" or "Badmouthing" them because they
"Why didn't you tell me that you were hurt?"

Yet, these people are the very people that complain about you behind yours and don't say a word.

No offense but I'm not really sure what kinda christians you're in contact with that watch south park and family guy. Surely they're not the conservative christians of the "bible belt" considering how my conversative christian parents won't even touch any of that stuff with a 10 foot pole.

Hugh

You have a point, but maybe a little too extreme....

Especially for me (as AS), almost all friendships end sooner or later. And once they have ended the ex friend now had all sorts of figurative ammunition to successfully use against me

Friendships have advantages and disadvantages

My mom told my dad that she has friends. He asked who. She answered. He said that those were coworkers, not "friends". Per se.

He then said what if you do not have friends, then what?

Then you do not have friends

So what?

Big deal

Stigma socially

Loner

Reject

Misunderstood

.......

So. I ain't got no precious lil "friends" right now

And, unless someone has a lot to offer positively, doubt I will seek more friends....

And besides, sometimes something that looks too good to be true, is too good to be true

Thus I am paranoid, suspicious and afraid. Greed. Want. Desire

Fear usually overpowers greed, now that 34



After all, when a former friend dumps you, the worst case scenario is, subject to imagination

And the best case scenario is, that bothered parties go holding hands skipping off into the sunset

Cost benefit analysis

Friendships, appear, (to me) not worth the energy

But whatever

Honestly, I have been losing friends since 2014 and it hurts because I feel that a couple of them stabbed me in the back.

One of them is a guy who also has Asperger's used to get ignored all the time, rejected and had people refuse to come to his parties etc. Then he moved up to another part of my city which is almost an hour away by driving and since
1. He's got a career where he's making money
2. He's got a girlfriend and has been blowing off all his friends including myself
3. Making plans with us but runs them over by making them with his girlfriend
4. Ignoring our texts, emails phone calls
5. Never has time for my other friends and I

The second one is a woman who also has autism 33-year-old who lives with her mom who is coddling and keeping her down. She has been seeming to distance herself from me while leading me around on Facebook while not ever having time for me. She:
1. She never has time to do anything with me and makes excuses
2. She has been picking on me

However, I have to wonder of these two are even worth having as friends because
1. When my guy friend was single, he kept hinting that he wanted to me for sex along with making lots of dirty and inappropriate jokes. Finally, he would talk down to my by calling me "Sweetie" like I was a little kid.
2. The female started picking on my everytime we were together and would do things like call me up out of the blue and say things that were nasty.

How about we stop calling everyone in the world terrible, because chances are they are not, and they are just as human as everyone else.

almost everyone falls into at least one of the following categories, at least sometimes. and yes, that includes myself. while i am drastically different from precious lil "most people", i am not important, precious, awesome, cool, or perfect either. in any way, shape, or form:

they act like every thought and emotion that goes through their brain must come out their trap within 10 seconds, lest the sky fall down.

but when someone that is not in their "in" group says something, they half listen and grunt "huh" and "what". the way they grunt "huh" and "what", is like they truly believe that that is the etiquette equivalent of "excuse me". and that is when they even noticed someone said something. oftentimes, they mishear what the speaker said.

only precious lil "people" just like them are in their "in" group. and they act like everyone else has no rights or emotions.

they do whatever they want, and when someone in their "in" group responds in any method other than passive aggressive tolerance, they have the nerve to squeak "you got mad".

they have the nerve to make positive and negative judgments about someone else's IQ score, clothes, hair, other merchandise.

they act like when they make a negative judgment about someone else, someone else has a moral obligation to apologize and change immediately.

they act like when they make a positive judgment about someone else, some else has to say "thank you". but a positive judgment is just as judgmental as a negative judgment.

if you do or say something they do not like, they say "why?", as if there is a correct reason. but there is no correct reason.

if you do or say something they like, they say "cool". they act like they have a moral right to live in a world where everything is "cool" (with them).

they refer to their "in" group as "people", "we", or "most people". they refer to you as "you". thus, whenever you do or say something they do not like, they overpower you, because they outnumber you.

they are constantly addicted to the latest greatest technology. every spare second. they use the technology at every chance, regardless of logic. for example, a precious lil "friend" had the nerve to dial my phone #, when we were both driving in separate cars, a couple yards away. but it is illegal to talk on the phone while driving. and she could've just pulled over.

they act like they have a moral right to get whatever they want immediately. such as, the bathroom.

when they think you did something they do not like, they act like you invented the world's worst felony. but when it turns out that you did not do what the wrongfully accused you of, they brush it off. no reparations. no "i'm sorry sir". they act like it never happened.... until, of course, they have a chance to make the next wrongful accusation.

they say "he felt bad", about someone in their "in" group. but "he felt bad" is not an apology. and i felt "bad" too, but nobody asked or cared how i felt. "he felt bad" is not the same as "i apologize". the way "he felt bad" sounds, was like he had a moral right to never feel "bad". and that when he "felt bad", that was a national catastrophe. while it doesn't matter how i felt. there are five emotions and only one is happy.

along the same lines, they have the nerve to try to veto anything you do. any slightest thing. just because "people don't like it". and he/she (the speaker) refers to himself/herself as "people". which sounds like they have a moral right to veto anything you do, just because he/she does not like it.

but when you try to point out something they did that you do not like (even if it is illegal), they say "people do it all the time!".

the let their dogs off leash, with an attitude like they not only did not do anything wrong, but they have never done anything wrong.

and they have that attitude almost all the time.

they ask "none of your business" questions, but when you ask them something they do not wanna answer they squeak "why?".

they act every time they ask a question, that is doing you a personal favor because they are showing interest. the word "question" has a positive connotation, because it contains the word "quest". but "interrogative statement" sounds worse. "interrogative". like "interrogation". as in CIA "interrogation". in chinese, the word for "question" is the same as the word for "problem".

they say "may i help you?" as if they are so morally innocent, powerful, and kind that they can and will help you. and they act like they have never harmed anyone or anything before in their lives. but that is not the way they treat their friends.

"are you ok?". as if they can and will help you otherwise.

"do you have a question?". as if they know everything and if you have a question, they have an answer.

"why are you smiling?", when they want you to stop smiling. (that's the slightest thing. don't i have rights? even prisoners, military recruits, small children, convicted murderers, and dogs - especially dogs - have rights. but i am transgender autistic so i ain't got no rights. because "she's a weirdo.")

"smile!", when you fail to smile.

whenever you say something, they judge you and it. including counselors. especially counselors. at least one psychologist had the nerve to remark on my gait (the way i walked from the waiting room to the office), clothes. a psychologist told me that he did not know if i was male or female when he saw me. not only that, but they got paid to make those judgments. like insult to injury.


they say "can you", as if, just because you "can", you "will".

they say "you need to", as if they have the moral right to order you around.

they get angry, impatient, annoyed and irritated when you do the slightest thing they do not like/understand.

pretty much given up on precious lil "friends". at this point.

thus far, almost everyone has grown apart, or dumped me. and the few that have not, do not know me that well.

besides, just because they have not dumped me yet, does not follow they never will.

then when they dump you, they act like you are Public Enemy Number 1. and they spread rumors and gossip.

they label anything you do that they do not like as "disrespectful" or "rude". as if to make it an objective fact.



and numerous other problems.



it's almost like i have to write a written contract of parameters of the interaction, so that precious lil "people" know how to act.