What do Aspies think of "ghosting"?

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Can they tell if someone is ghosting them?
Recently I am trying to avoid my aspie ex, I wonder if he senses that and knows that I do this because I'm sad

it usually takes me a while to notice. the lack of closure really bites, i've spent years trying to tie up ends left loose by ghosting.


does your ex keep trying to get in contact with you?

It’s a most irritating thing, ghosting.

It depends on how he feels about you.

If he has strong feelings, he will be hurt, and might perhaps “hate” you because of his hurt.

But most reasonable people won’t “hate” you.

Why did you break up in the first place?

I've been ghosted more times than I care to admit, in both romantic and platonic contexts. It freaking hurts. A lot.

Why is ghosting a thing? Can people seriously not be mature and responsible and just say something - anything - instead of disappearing without a trace?

People “ghost,” usually because of a fear of the ghosted person becoming obsessed with the one doing the ghosting.

It’s a “coward’s” way of doing things—but, sometimes, it might be practical.i

I’ve been ghosted, too, and felt angry about it. Upon reflection, though, there have been times when I felt the ghosting was justified and the smart thing to do.

It wasn’t a good situation for either of you.

Did you form an attraction because of your respect for his knowledge and logic? This frequently happens in Aspie/neurotypical relationships.

If he wants to get back together, you should lay out your needs and desires explicitly. Don’t expect perfection—but expect some change (and growth).

You seem like you miss him. But you have to think practically, too.

It seems better to just be done with it, then.

Let him make the overtures. If he expresses a desire to change himself, then the relationship becomes viable.

Just remember the good times, otherwise.

It's a cowardly move. If you don't want someone in your life anymore, just say it.