Creepy appearance

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Lots of people think I look creepy because of things I have no control over. I have an extremly cr@ppy body I had really bad acne as a kid & I have lots of scars on my face as a result. I also have problems shaving my face because I have bad vision, bad motor skills & tremors. I can NOT do a perfect shave job. I can get my parents to help for something important like a job interview or & social function but the rest of the time I just do the best I can & it's NOT perfect. I also have some scares on my upper left arm from slashing myself 7 years ago. I don't like wearing long sleeved shirts because it's usually very hot & humid here. Short sleeves cover em but people might notice after a while depending what I'm doing with my arms. If anyone ask; I tell em I feel against a board that had some nails sticking out of it; my dad does work in carpentry so that was the best thing I can come up with. I'm also losing the hair on my head & I guess I could try shaving it or getting a tupe(SP) or something but I don't think I should have to,

People also think I'm creepy because of my facial expressions. I find weird things funny sometimes & even thou I'm not laughing I still smirk or grin when others think it's inappropriate. I cant display the "correct" emotions on my face. Also when I'm nervous or stressed out; my tremors act up & I also occasionally stutter or slur when I'm very nervous. I would need a different body to have a shot at not coming off as creepy. I kind of accepted that I'm a creep. It's probably partly why I've been unable to get a girl-friend

I tried electric razors before but I do a worse job with em; they don't get as close & spots like my chin are messier. I've talked to dermatologist before about the scars a couple years ago when I was going because of skin allergies & their ain't much they can do; maybe If I had lots of money to spend I could get major cosmetic surgery but I don't have much money. I've tried scar cream out for a while & didn't do nothing. I'll have to try that advice about facial expressions thou. My friends tend to be on the creepy side & I'm not just talking about their looks but their personalities. I never got along well with normal people thou even as a kid.

Being creepy means that you are:
A. a precieved threat (unfriendly) and
B. not easily figured out or dealt with

Both can be countered with an introduction and talking more

I don't particularly care if anyone finds me creepy. I find people making subjective judgments about the worth of others based only on "intuition" to be creepy. I may not behave in a typical way and I can't be bothered to fake it, this does not make me creepy. I don't move slowly with my body close to the ground. As far as I'm concerned the word is an insult aimed at hurting those people who don't conform to the narrow expectations of the so-called "normal" person.

Maybe you're a psychopath. People naturally find psychopaths creepy.

Great suggestions, I can only reinforce them.

People simply can't tell from your demeanor or facial expression what your intentions are, and they find that scary. Smiling is to reasure them you mean them no harm.

Smile, smile and smile until it hurts. In front of a mirror. Yes. I did.

Talk to the mirror. Look at that person and talk like it's a stranger.

See what you look like. If you have a digital camera, or camera phone, take your photo. Put it up on the computer and you'll look 'real'. Not the reverse image you see in the mirror.

The eye contact thing is HARD. This is my format I try to follow: Look in their eyes while they talk (not down at the floor), occaisionally letting your eyes look down or to the side for a couple seconds (like you're thinking about what they are saying), then back. Focused, but without constant staring. Remember to blink. (am I weird, or what?! LOL!)

One Aspie friend of mine (I don't know if I do this???) tends to walk up and get RIGHT TO THE POINT. It's unsettling for people and I can see how they look at him. Ex; "I need that thing you are standing in front of." Straight face, no expression.

It's better to talk some banter too. "Hey, how's going? blah, blah, blah. *smile smile* I really hate to interupt, but I've got to get that widget behind you or my boss is going to kill me." *rolls eyes*

This takes years for some of us. Good luck!

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You know, after thinking about it, I have been "creepy" in situations as well.

Though, I've adapted a little bit better but it's still hard to talk to others without feeling judgment. It does make me feel great when I'm talking to a girl and she smiles and asks me how I'm feeling or how my day went. No one really asks me that. It's just unfortunate that I don't know how to respond.