Did any of your bullies show regret?

Post Reply New Topic

Not really. But I think that part of me wouldn't want them too. Or at least it wouldn't have. Now if they came back and apologized, I'd probably forgive them. Mind you a lot of it I've pretty much forgotten, or at least it's no longer important. I still wouldn't trust them though, because in my experience there aren't too many people that grow. A lot of people are monsters.

This is also not to say that I don't have something of a sense that "the world is out to get me." That is to say, there's just something about me that people don't like, and they just attack casually. Then again, I'm not exactly very social to begin with, and people seemed to be less of jerks as time went on.

I imagine I'd still probably get a fair amount of it, and if I did? I shouldn't let it bother me. I mean, I should be bigger than the small people after all.

I really hate it, but I picked on a few people too. But it was so long ago, and I don't even know their names if I ever did in the first place, so I'm probably not going to get a chance. Maybe if I become famous or something.

I've never seen anyone show regret for bullying me, but there was this one story about people showing regret for bullying somebody else.

I should mention that I went to two "special schools" and I was an outcast in both of them. In one of them, there was this kid who would say things that made no sense and nine times out of ten, you couldn't even figure out what he was trying to say. One day in class (he was not in this class), a teacher said about him, "He wasn't like that until he got hit by a bus." After that, a bunch of kids said, "I feel bad now. I wouldn't have picked on him if I had known he was like that because he was hit by a bus."

I find that very confusing. Would picking on him somehow be more justified if he had been born that way?

About 12 years after I graduated from highschool I was visiting family in my home town. I bumped into a boy who used to bully me (hit me, punch me, trip me, say mean things) and he just out of the blue apologized for being an ass to me in school. I'm sure it was genuine because his eyes were teary and his voice cracked. I hugged him and said it was ok, I forgive him. It was really awkward but I didn't want him crying.

Yeah, I actually partied and talked to someone who was a rotten pr*ck to me in High School. He was the captain of the school basketball team. Then there was a second fellow I saw working at a car dealership who was the same type of guy, the next-in-line for captain of the basketball team but he was the next grade level down. He still stabbed some sh*tty words at me too though. However, I was yacking with both of them years later. It was good to see them doing well, I don't wish any harm to them anymore. Some people do grow out of it. In these cases, they got some hard life lessons and it knocked them into reality. One thing I will say though, it is extremely hard to reach that forgive and forget point. It's something like Starwars with the force. The darkside seems better and easier but eventually it consumes you. To walk around hating these people for life is an endless hole. To forgive the ones who grow up, forget the ones who never change because when they are adults....there's no excuse to act like little 90210'ers anymore.

no. i saw one of the kids that use to bully me from the neighbourhood when i was a kid when i was 20 and went back to the town that i used to live in for a visit. the dude didn't even acted like he knew me at all, i mean we got into atleast 3 fights in a span of four years, so i don't know how he couldn't have known me. all the other bully's that taunted me prolly got deported back to mexico where they came from because thats all that picked on me in highschool. faggots

A bully in school apologized to me when we were about 23. I didn't realize the sincerity of his apology at first mostly because it wasn't a big deal having been bullied when I was a kid. Now that I'm an adult anyway. When I was a kid it sucked. When I started to get bigger and more athletic, the bullies backed off a lot. I also think my reaction to them showed a lack of fear because I didn't completely realized that I was supposed to be more afraid than I actually probably should have been. This bully, David, came from a poor family environment, and that was a large factor in his behaviour. If I meet him again, I'd like to talk to him and really listen to see how he feels about it now.

No, but one old school friend felt very guilty for not stopping the bullies and worst of all laughing at what the bullies did. She felt remorse ten years on. The bullies have children now and families, I bet they never think about it all, they may be nice mums now!

I've made every last one of them regret sooner or later
(i used to be revengeful as a kid, if i couldn't take someone down, i would wait for him near his home a few weeks later when he wouldnt expect it)

I don't think there was regret at the time, but I remember one of my old bullies coming up to me when I was at university, and having a polite conversation with me. I don't think it's any coincidence that this was the same bully on whom I'd gone postal back in high school, charging after him after he'd shoved me into a pile of bags, leaping onto his back with my arms around his neck, and thrashing around while screaming like a madman.

Funnily enough, he never picked on me again after that...

Sadly, the same cannot be said for some of my other bullies, who soured one of the two rather unenjoyable and uncomfortable experiences I had with the local town nightclub by actually bullying me right there in the nightclub, shoving me over on the dance floor, and basically hounding me all night, telling me I should get out of "their place". I should have filed assault charges, really (since they'd actually left school at that point, and were thus technically responsible adults), but I never did...

Due to my listening abilities and abilities to see both sides of a situation (as an observer) I found myself watching kids get bullied and not getting bullied myself, although clueless as to why they did.. It didnt seem like any of them showed regret since they did it every recess

Most people who were mean to me got over it after thay'd actually been given a while to get to know me.

This topic hits a sore spot with me as while i was bullied all through school, to the extent that teachers were taking me aside(thank you oblivion), this got worse in high school, not that i noticed.
There was one girl in particular, i've no idea why she honed in on me, and i guess i'll never know, who really did not like me. I didn't really pay attention to her, i was by no means the only person she picked on, i'm going to assume that this annoyed her, that or i was to good a subject, as there is much that is different about me.
She started by trying to affect my confidence, saying that my voice is funny and really irritating, accusing me of putting on an accent (sure, i deliberately did something that made me different ).
I SH and she said that she hoped i'd kill myself, she would come up to me in the street and accuse me of threatening little children that i had never met or spoken too, she said that she and her friend would beat me up.
They did.
After school, when i was out with a friend, her and her friend came up, they started trying to force a confrrontation, accusing me of thinking i was better than them (Duh!) i ignored them, they proceeded to spit on me and throw things at me, including a skateboard.
This is when i left.
They got me from behind, grabbed me by my hair, punched me and threw me to the ground, where they proceeded to kick me, thoughtfully they'd worn boots with steel toe caps.
They probably hadn't been doing it for long, though it seemed like forever, when a guy, my friends friend, who i had just met that day, stepped in and stopped them.
If i could remember who he was i would thank him, i can't remember if i got my friend to or not.
My friend called my parents and my Mum picked me up, ironically, it was just along the street from my house, i went home and it was decided that i needed to go into Aand E, i was in shock and couldn't stop shaking. The police were at the hospital and i had to give a statement while i was waiting for x-rays.
Afterwards i was a wreck, i didn't go back to school until after the holidays. Luckily, the gilr in my class wasn't there, she was off campus, only problem was, whenever i saw someone who looked like her, or had the same haircut, i would panic, the other girl wasn't in my year so i hardly ever saw her.
Sorry, i'm off topic here, i guess i'm still trying to deal. Anyway, while at school. the girl, the one i'd never met until then, came up to me in the dining room, she called my name and i'd tried to ignore her, she grabbed my arm and then i really started to panic. She said she wanted to apologise, if i let her, i wasn't thinking clearly, but i do remember hearing her apologise. I don't know whether she felt guilty, or whether she was made to, as it was, i just nodded and ran away.
When i look back, i wish i'd asked her whether she meant it or not, more importantly, i wish i'd asked her why? I'd never met her before, never done anything to her, or anyone for that matter, Did she do it because her friend convinced her i'd deserved it, or did she get a kick out of that kind of thing?

Anyway, sorry for ranting, and going off topic.