Repeating Greatings/ Questions

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Does anyone else do this?
For example, this is generally how a "conversation" with my dad goes
me "Hi"
dad "Hi"
me "Hi"
dad "You said that already"
me "Oh"
five min later
me "Hi"
dad "We've been through this."
Later
me "How are you"
dad "Fine."
me "Say something funny."
dad "I don't have anything funny."
me "Hi."

or some variation of that through the night. I've done this for as long as I can remember and also have a sort of "mantra" i say when he asks me where I want take out food from.

I don't really have that problem so much getting caught somewhat off guard when somebody greets me or says goodbye, where I'll usually end up awkwardly mumbling something in response, often mirroring what they said, which isn't so bad when it's just "Hi," but responding to a "Nice to meet you," with another "Nice to meet you," is a little bit strange.

Out of curiosity, are these "conversation mantras" something that you'd like change? If not, then please feel free to ignore me, but if so, then perhaps you could try to enter conversations with your dad already planning what you're going to say after you greet each other, so that you don't end up falling back on your default of "Hi." Ask him how his day has gone, or bring up some subject that interests both of you, or I'm sure you can think of something.

I don't know if I want to change it. I only do it (to this extent) with him and am not sure I want to add the stress of predicting a conversation. I tend to create on in my head and go through every possible response, which leads to replaying conversations from my childhood and a lovely, anxiety provoking situation occurs.

On the rare occasion I initiate a greeting (generally at work) I find that I forget I started it so the exchange goes something like this:

Me: "How are you doing today?"
Customer: "Fine, and you?"
Me: "Not bad, how about yourself?"

yes, I know the feeling. Many times the reason I repeat the question is that I've forgotten that I've asked it, even if it was only a few seconds ago.