How to be friends with a girl

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Im 15 but I don't feel comfortable having a relationship yet so How can I just be a friend My social skills and everything with boys are okay but what about girls I want to be friends but I don't know how I can have a conversation with some girls for a bit until I **** up a social cue but I want to be there friends Please help

I agree with Bill that it comes down to luck. Just be yourself and stay strong while you wade through all the bad friends.


The only real tip I can give you is, don't fall in love, and don't see becoming friends as "the beginning leading to a relationship" all together. If it happens, it happens, but it's the killer of any friendship if it doesn't.

Actually never expect anything to begin with from girls, they are strange creatures and if one really wants to be your friend they'll show it and you'll feel it. If you don't feel it, it's probably not true because they know how they are making you feel much better than they want to admit.

My "best friends forever" proved it to me two days ago when I was feeling neglected by her and I just randomly happened to encounter her on the street as she was going to do groceries and I was headed to another friend. Because I'm a little bit of a drama queen rather than being happy to see her, I made sure she saw me and then also made sure she knew "it was my turn to ignore her now" by putting on my headphones and walking away. She ran after me because she quickly put 1 and 1 together and realized I had one of my "special moments" in reaction to her totally unintentional but still inattentive behaviour towards me because she cares enough to try to understand me and knew this was one of those moments where she needed to "step up" even though she did nothing wrong and could also just get annoyed by my behaviour and walk away. She then took 2 hours out of her busy schedule to spend time with me and recharge -my- friendship batteries.

Just be yourself and you will eventually find someone who cares, but again, don't break the trust of the friendship they are willing to offer you by thinking that if you start falling in love, they will too.

I hate to break it to you... being a friend is simple... regardless of gender identity, being a friend is the same for all genders... just be yourself.

It's always great to be around friendship idealists who will accept whatever you do as being you, and not judge your intentions or take the situation too seriously.
Unfortunately, there aren't many people like that. I know only one such person in real life, and he is that way only because nobody ever accepted him. I find it difficult to tolerate him myself.

Then there are the people who have learned many really unhealthy yet subtly tolerable social behaviors during childhood. I am still retraining my social protocols to remove these unhealthy behaviors from myself. These are the behaviors that make a generally good, nice person hated by all. It's nobody's fault really, and identifying and removing those behaviors is a slow and difficult process.

Ultimately, no matter how you act in social situations, you are yourself, so I find the advice "be yourself" to be utterly redundantly pointless.
That's just me though. I think what it really means is don't be so nervous about it. Don't worry about it?