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20 Mar 2017, 9:03 pm

I'm someone who avoids a lot of day to day social contact, yet posts on FB (Facebook) several times everyday. I find it easier for lots of reasons.

This week some "friends" have been making fun of the things I post. It's not the first time I've been criticised for posting personal things on my FB.

Thing is, I do it because then I'm not directly burdening anyone, so whoever feels able to respond can - I haven't got to judge who I could approach one-to-one about each daily going on.

I've had a LOT going on lately, including months of illness that still hasn't stopped. I've been taken the p*** out of for this, as though I'm just complaining or exagerrating something.

So tonight I deleted my FB account as I feel fed up of being judged and ridiculed. And it'd be nice to spent less time worrying about social stuff and more time on my hobbies again anyway.

But without it, I only have ONE friend who I speak to regularly offline! Nearly all of my social life is online.

I'm unsure what to do everytime I take a break now too, as my routine is to check FB each time I'm bored or have a cigarette etc. I'm not good with change.

As a plan B I wondered about setting up a new account with just my favourite people on, but I do wonder of total abstinence might actually be best.

Any advice or thoughts?



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21 Mar 2017, 1:22 am

If you absolutely have to have an account, just delete the "friends" that you don't like. This is one part of your life where you hold the power. But maybe try no Facebook for 1 month and see if it is something that you must have. If so, you can build it into a "happy" place and just let people that accept you in. I may not be the best at advice regarding Facebook because I have no account and have no interest in dealing with everyone trying to one up each other, or knowing what everyone ate for lunch at what time. True people know where to find me and how to get ahold of me if they want to do something. I'm your age, but born in the wrong generation and see no benefit to it. Plus having only aquaintences and no true friends that I can be my true self with helps with me not caring :D



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23 Mar 2017, 5:50 am

I've had the same issue with Facebook. I used to post nearly everything that came to mind, but it became a habit more than anything. Friends, family and even colleagues have told me not to post too much personal stuff. I can see their point to an extent.
I have forced myself to tone down the amount of updates I post, as I have a feeling that I posted so much gloom about myself, that friends have unfollowed me (but stayed friends), which means I got quite unpopular on Facebook (although didn't affect my relationships with them offline).

I use WP to post my most deepest thoughts and feelings, which is better because it's anonymous and I can feel free to talk about Asperger's. I don't really talk about it to people I know.


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23 Mar 2017, 7:35 pm

Instead of deleting your profile you should delete the friends that criticize your profile, they are not the boss of you.
You get to decide what you post on your profile, not them :)



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23 Mar 2017, 8:12 pm

Caesar wrote:
Instead of deleting your profile you should delete the friends that criticize your profile, they are not the boss of you.
You get to decide what you post on your profile, not them :)


Ha ha I like that.

I'm leaving it off for now but when I reactivate a big clear out is definitely in order. I've got upsetting stuff going on atm that I can't really talk about on there, yet it's my go to outlet for frustration usually. So prob best keep it off and try and cope alone for a bit. I've been reading a lot this week to try and cope with the other stuff.



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Yesterday, 6:58 pm

Deleting your friends is good.

Does anyone want to be my Facebook friend?


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Yesterday, 9:36 pm

I deleted my Facebook, and really did not understand the platform that much, and if they're only wanting to connect on Facebook, they're not really your friends.



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Today, 12:23 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
Deleting your friends is good.

Does anyone want to be my Facebook friend?


Sure


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Today, 1:19 am

https://www.facebook.com/tim.boyd.5203

My page ^^^


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