Catching up with old friends

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I hate reconnecting with people I've lost touch with. It always starts off with them asking "What have you been up to?" and my response is always the same, the truth: "Nothing". It's even worse when it's someone from highschool because that ended 3 years ago so most people have gone off to college or are at least working and actually have things to talk about. I've done pretty much nothing productive since highschool and while I'm genuinely curious about what they've been up to, I'd rather not talk about my life because it just makes me feel bad about myself

I bring this up because my old lunch friends are trying to have a small reunion and I'd love to see some of them again (others, not so much) but I'll probably come out of it really depressed at seeing how much they've moved on in their lives and I've gone nowhere. I can't decide if I should skip it or just go and face the embarassment. I was already kind of dreading my old best friend's upcoming wedding because it will also be like a reunion because she's invited a lot of people we went to highschool with. But I shouldn't skip that because we were really close once and I already missed her daughter's birth because we were out of touch and I don't want to miss her wedding too.

is easy to do if they are older than 80.
they can not run very fast after that age.

You should go. All my old friends have already finished college and they also have jobs and I haven´t finished it and I don´t have a job, but I don´t feel embarassed about it. I usually tell them I had some problems (and indeed I had). Anyway, I consider myself a late bloomer.

What you do here is elaborating. Ask them about their jobs and their family, and pay attention real hard to something that gives you a little clue about what they're doing. When they drop it, ask about it. And so on.

Then watch the whole story unfold.

I don't "hang out". Unless there's a specific activity involved, I don't go.

I would have accepted an offer if some old friends from high school invited me somewhere.