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hartzofspace
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28 Feb 2010, 8:22 pm
pippilngstkngpr wrote:
Also, how would I desensitize myself for affection?
I had the same issues mentioned here, about touch. When I started dating my current guy, I was agonizing about this. What happened, was we started out sitting together while watching a movie. After awhile, I was able to sit closer, although I felt something close to panic at his proximity. When I'd gotten comfortable with sitting closely, we held hands. It felt really weird, at first, and I felt almost terrified, holding someone's hand, no matter how much I liked the guy. It was almost as if I were on some scary ride at the amusement park.
After a few weeks, we were able to hug, and so on. Just take it nice and slow.
28 Feb 2010, 9:59 pm
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01 Mar 2010, 3:43 pm
hartzofspace wrote:
pippilngstkngpr wrote:
Also, how would I desensitize myself for affection?
I had the same issues mentioned here, about touch. When I started dating my current guy, I was agonizing about this. What happened, was we started out sitting together while watching a movie. After awhile, I was able to sit closer, although I felt something close to panic at his proximity. When I'd gotten comfortable with sitting closely, we held hands. It felt really weird, at first, and I felt almost terrified, holding someone's hand, no matter how much I liked the guy. It was almost as if I were on some scary ride at the amusement park.
After a few weeks, we were able to hug, and so on. Just take it nice and slow.That sounds so romantic even though you were uncomfortable at first.
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01 Mar 2010, 6:32 pm
Taupey wrote:
hartzofspace wrote:
pippilngstkngpr wrote:
Also, how would I desensitize myself for affection?
I had the same issues mentioned here, about touch. When I started dating my current guy, I was agonizing about this. What happened, was we started out sitting together while watching a movie. After awhile, I was able to sit closer, although I felt something close to panic at his proximity. When I'd gotten comfortable with sitting closely, we held hands. It felt really weird, at first, and I felt almost terrified, holding someone's hand, no matter how much I liked the guy. It was almost as if I were on some scary ride at the amusement park.
After a few weeks, we were able to hug, and so on. Just take it nice and slow.That sounds so romantic even though you were uncomfortable at first.
Yes, I guess it was romantic! I was just so grateful that he was patient with me.
01 Mar 2010, 11:49 pm
hartzofspace wrote:
pippilngstkngpr wrote:
Also, how would I desensitize myself for affection?
I had the same issues mentioned here, about touch. When I started dating my current guy, I was agonizing about this. What happened, was we started out sitting together while watching a movie. After awhile, I was able to sit closer, although I felt something close to panic at his proximity. When I'd gotten comfortable with sitting closely, we held hands. It felt really weird, at first, and I felt almost terrified, holding someone's hand, no matter how much I liked the guy. It was almost as if I were on some scary ride at the amusement park.
After a few weeks, we were able to hug, and so on. Just take it nice and slow.So basically I should find someone who is patient and will work with me to be comfortable. Thanks
Thank s for the help!
02 Mar 2010, 10:14 am
Physical contact makes me feel uncomfortable & weird (for the lack of a better word). But I'm sure that with the right person that would all change. Unfortunately, at my age, I'll probably never meet the right person 
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02 Mar 2010, 11:00 am
lyricalillusions wrote:
Physical contact makes me feel uncomfortable & weird (for the lack of a better word). But I'm sure that with the right person that would all change. Unfortunately, at my age, I'll probably never meet the right person
Yes, you're too old (just joking). You are almost 20 years younger than me (I'm 47 years old). I believe we are never too old to meet someone and fall in love. My 92 year old grandmother's friends are still falling in love and getting married. I know that might be hard to imagine or something you would rather not imagine. But it happens. So keep an opened mind about it. You just might be pleasantly surprised. I was.
Taupey
02 Mar 2010, 12:35 pm
I'm fine with that stuff myself. I like it
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02 Mar 2010, 2:46 pm
Taupey wrote:
lyricalillusions wrote:
Physical contact makes me feel uncomfortable & weird (for the lack of a better word). But I'm sure that with the right person that would all change. Unfortunately, at my age, I'll probably never meet the right person
Yes, you're too old (just joking). You are almost 20 years younger than me (I'm 47 years old). I believe we are never too old to meet someone and fall in love. My 92 year old grandmother's friends are still falling in love and getting married. I know that might be hard to imagine or something you would rather not imagine. But it happens. So keep an opened mind about it. You just might be pleasantly surprised. I was.
Taupey
I'll second that! I met my current boyfriend when I turned 51. We are in love. It can happen when you least expect it! I had all but given up.
02 Mar 2010, 4:18 pm
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