Are you comfortable with the emotional side of relationships

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but i thought sex was all about choosing a side- front or back?

I'm fairly comfortable with the emotional side of relationships.
To me that is the attraction. To be able to share what is on my mind with a special someone, to allow myself to show all my different sides, to be near to someone, feel the warmth of the skin, the beating of his heart.
And I find it to be such a gift when another human being dares to open up to me, dares to be honest and show me all of their being.

I admit: sometimes I wish, I could just be satisfied to live all by myself for the rest of my life.
That way I couldn't have to depend on anyone, I would be free to travel anywhere at any time, I could move, flee to the other side of the Earth if that was what I desired, but honestly? Sometimes it's just nice to have someone depend on you, someone who pushes you to be the best you can be (allowing one to fail at the same time as well of course), someone who's there when the rest of the world seems to turn its back on me. (-:

I will never allow myself to give up on the possibility of a romantic relationship.

Romantic relationships are the only type of relationship in which I'm at ease with emotions.

Even having had sex with someone makes me feel more comfortable around them and therefore more able to open up emotionally, and bond emotionally, even if the sex doesn't lead to a relationship. I guess that's just plain weird.

I agree with both your statements. That's why even in a FWB situation, there is the same emotional bond as there is in a relationship, at least on my end.

Not true, not all relationships are the same. Lots of people who find love within themselves can coexist with a partner who also loves themselves.

It's only the couples that NEED someone because they can't love themselves, that cling and get all emotional.

I believe that what Seanmw was likely suggesting here was that for him, a relationship lacking an emotional side would not be able to flourish. And if so, than that statment is true for him.



LOL! Now that is NOT TRUE. Any person with a sufficient amount of self-love and confidence can still appreciate and benefit from loving and receiving love from another person. Though there are many people who, as you describe, are lacking in a sense of their own self-worth and seek to find that validation from others instead, it is naively pessimistic to assume that all who seek an emotional closeness and reciprocity with another individual are doing it purely out of weakness. Or to assume that being emotionally attached to someone dictates "clinginess."

I know somebody who expects there to never be burdens or inconveniences in a relationship. She also expects to never have to give emotional support (not that she is incapable, she just doesn't want to).

What would be the most likely reason for having such expectations, even though emotional support, burdens, and inconveniences are just part of life?

It isn't weird at all. It's the norm for women. I won't speak for men, but this phenomenon has been studied a lot in women and is thought to be related to bonding hormones.

What would be the reason? A combination of being unrealistic and being very stubborn.

Yup

I'm very emotional and thrive on intensely emotional relationships. They make me happy, as long as they are going well. I don't mind talking about emotional things and I like interdependence. Sometimes I get too codependent, though, or can't handle change in a relationship if it involves pulling away from the person.

I'm confused by emotions. Mine are usually subtle. Sometimes though, I can get very upset because of social confusion. If someone else gets emotional I just leave them alone and want to recede into the background as soon as possible. I don't know... even this thread confuses me.

I find I can't make sense of my emotions. They tend to come in tangled clusters of complex, subtle little things, very difficult to tease apart. I think sometimes I'd prefer if I had only experienced primary emotions individually. Me angry! Me sad! Me horny> etc.

I voted yes, because... I don't know... the absence of emotions is boring. But then it's quite painful having them. I guess It's like women. You want one, and then when you've got one, you don't.

I get very easily confused by my emotions and sometimes I just don't understand them. I have a lot of trouble expressing them to someone else. I have no problem with being romantic or loving someone but when it comes to sharing what I'm feeling I just don't know how to do it. Relationships are very hard for me. I fear that my current relationship is coming to an end because I really don't know how to communicate to her about what I'm feeling.