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niksloter
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09 Jul 2012, 5:30 pm

Thanks Dmarcotte



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20 Jul 2012, 6:02 pm

Hi - I'm a newbie - went through the first 5 pages (right up until I found DMARCOTTE'S beautiful alphabetical list) - here is a slighted edited version with some of the comments. I picked what seemed to be the most popular. Apologies - nothing on girls because I was making the list for me so I can learn more about how to engage with my new partner's 13 yo son - still thought it might be useful. Categories might be off - I haven't read anything yet!

GENERAL

• The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome , by Tony Attwood I'm reading it at the moment and he says we don't lack empathy in the sense that we don't care about others, but we do have problems seeing things from other points of view. I think lol I'm enjoying it. Something I noticed is he says hand flapping typically disappears around 9 years of age in aspies, but that puzzles me because I still do it in private.

• Autism Physicians Handbook. best I have read in a while

GENERAL PARENTING

• I am finding "Parenting a Child With Asperger Syndrome: 200 Tips and Strategies" by Brenda Boyd to be the most helpful out of anything that I have read so far. She does not try to paint AS with rosey tones, she is honest while staying positive. Her attitude makes me feel less "bad" and more "normal" for being so frustrated at times.

• My favorite nonfiction book is A Parents Guide to Asperger Syndrome and High Functioning Autism This was the first book that talked about life as I knew it. I recommended it to everyone I knew who might want to understand my son better and my mother actually apologized to me after reading it, for not having "gotten it" before.

• "Quirky Kids: Understanding and Helping Your Child Who Doesn't Fit In. When To Worry and When Not to Worry" by Dr. Perri Klass. She's a pediatrician. As you can tell from its title, it has a pro-neurodiversity slant with an emphasis on helping rather than curing.

• Can I Tell You About Asperger Syndrome?: A Guide for Friends and Family, Jude Welton Very general and straight-forward. A quick, easy read. My son is reading this to his class.

• Asperger's Answer Book: The Top 275 Questions Parents Ask, Susan Ashley PhD
I really like this book for general, straight-forward info!!

• Asperger's: What Does It Mean to Me?, by Catherine Faherty This is a workbook that parents do WITH their Asperger's child. I am learning so much more about his quirks.

• Parent Effectiveness Training by Thomas Gordon. Both really helpful on a day-to-day

ANXIETY/INFLEXIBILITY/TANTRUS

• "Freeing Your Child from Anxiety." My kiddo has always been anxious, but the anxiety has gotten worse. This book really taught me WHY kids feel anxious and how adults can give them the tools to stop the anxious thought and replace it with more logical thoughts. It has worked really well so far. I feel like I understand him a lot better too! I'd recommend this book to anyone who has children with anxiety issues.

• What to do when your brain gets stuck, is geared for kids with OCD/anxiety by Dawn Huebner this has helped me know how to talk to my son about his OCD behaviors.

• Anything and everything by Temple Grandin, The Way I See It: A Personal Look At Autism And Aspergers

• Understanding and Helping Easily Frustrated, "Chronically Inflexible" Children. Brilliant book. Practical, positive parenting methods.

• Asperger Syndrome And Difficult Moments: Practical Solutions For Tantrums, Rage And Meltdowns, Brenda Smith Myles; Jack Southwick

• The Explosive Child, by Ross W. Greene, Ph.D.

SOCIALISATION

• Socially Curious and Curiously Social: A Social Thinking Guidebook for Teens & Young Adults with Asperger’s, ADHD, PDD-NOS, NVLD, or other Murky Undiagnosed Social Learning Issues" written by Michelle Garcia Winner and Pamela Crooke We have this one in our resource room for students, and it is dogeared from my Autism and Asperger's students borrowing it. It is funny and down to earth, written in Anime style.

• Speak Up and Get Along, by Scott Cooper. A great social skills book - my 11 year old loves it

• Quirky, Yes---Hopeless, No: Practical Tips to Help Your Child with Asperger's Syndrome Be More Socially Accepted by Cynthia La Brie Norall

• You are a Social Detective by Michelle Garcia Winner and Pamela Crooke has been a great help to me in coming up with ways to communicate with my first-grader daughter about what sorts of behaviors are "expected" and which are not.

• "The unwritten rules of friendship: simple strategies to help your child make friends"

• Incredible 5-Point Scale: Assisting Students with Autism Spectrum Disorders in Understanding Social Interactions and Controlling Their Emotional Responses by Kari Dunn Buron This is good for school and home. You will learn a lot about your child's own emotional regulation and what triggers it.


AUTOBIOGRAPHIC

• Anything But Typical, another fiction book from the perspective of someone autistic this book is incredible. My son's teacher gave it to us as a gift. I feel like I read so much non fiction about AS, sometimes it doesn't sink in after a while....but I love the fiction AS. I seem to take it in better and I am really getting inside the head of someone on the spectrum. It helps me understand my son better, and empathize/ Oh, I loved this book so much! It was the first time a fictional portrayal of someone with Autism really hit home for me. His relationship with his mom is very like mine with my son

• Freaks Geeks and Aspergers by Luke Jackson , This is a great book, written by a 13 year old boy with Aspergers. It gives a good insite to at least one boy's experience. One thing that I have learned is that all Aspergers kids are different and like and do different things. It was good to understand more of what my son might think about the world.

• Asperger Syndrome, the Universe and Everything, by Kenneth Hall (10 years old) My son loved this book!

• Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew by Ellen Notbohm A slim, quick read. Another really, really positive perspective on AS. I may just buy this for Christmas for our extended family members.

• Pretending to Be Normal: Living With Asperger's Syndrome, by Liane Holliday Willey, Tony Attwood (Foreword).

• Lost at School by Ross Greene Positive, pro-kid plans for kids struggling at school. I wish every teacher and principal could read this


Alpha order full list appended below - thanks to DMARCOTTE


1. A mind at a Time by Mel Levine
2. All Cats have Asperger Syndrome
by Kathy Hoopmann
3. Anything But Typical
4. Asperger Syndrome And Difficult Moments: Practical Solutions For Tantrums, Rage And Meltdowns by Brenda Smith Myles; Jack Southwick
5. Asperger Syndrome, the Universe and Everything
by Kenneth Hall (10 years old)
6. Asperger's Answer Book: The Top 275 Questions Parents Ask
by Susan Ashley PhD
7. Asperger's Syndrome and the Elementary School Experience, by Susan Thompson Moore
For helpful tips on classroom behavior and more
8. Asperger's Syndrome Guide for TEENS & YOUNG ADULTS Thriving (not Just Surviving)" by Craig Kendall?
9. Asperger's: What Does It Mean to Me?
by Catherine Faherty
This is a workbook that parents do WITH their Asperger's child.
10. Aspergirls: Empowering Females with Asperger Syndrome by Rudy Simone
11. Baby Talk by Dr Sally Ward
12. BORN ON A BLUE DAY by Daniel Tammet's
13. Building Bridges through sensory integration by Paula Aquilla, Shirley Sutton, & Ellen Yac
14. Can I Tell You About Asperger Syndrome?: A Guide for Friends and Family
by Jude Welton
15. Children the Challenge by Rudolf Dreikurs, M.D.
16. Complete Guide to Aspergers Syndrome Tony Attwood's
17. Hitchhiking Through Asperger's Syndrome, by Lisa Pyles
For a mother's point of view
18. Horse Boy by Rupert Isaacson
19. How to Be a Friend: A Guide to Making Friends and Keeping Them by Laura Krasny Brown and Marc Brown (of the Arthur books)
20. HOW WELL DOES YOUR IEP MEASURE UP? by: Diane Twachtman-Cullen, Jennifer Twachtman-Reilly
21. Just Give Him the Whale" by Kluth
22. Like Color to the Blind by Donna Williams
23. Look Me in the Eye" by John Elder Robison
24. Lost at School by Ross Greene Positive, pro-kid plans for kids struggling at school. I wish every teacher and principal could read this.
25. --Marcelo In The Real World – novel from the point of view of someone who has aspergers
26. My Brother Charlie* by Holly Robinson Peete and Ryan Elizabeth Peete
27. nobody, nowhere" by Donna Williams
28. Parallel Play: Growing Up With Undiagnosed Aspergers, by Tim Page
29. Parent Effectiveness Training by Dr. Thomas Gordon
30. Parenting a Child With Asperger Syndrome: 200 Tips and Strategies" by Brenda Boyd
31. Parenting your Asperger Child: Individualized Solutions for Teaching Your Child Practical Skills" by Alan Sohn, Ed.D., and Cathy Grayson, M.A.
32. Pretending to Be Normal: Living With Asperger's Syndrome
by Liane Holliday Willey
33. Quirky Kids: Understanding and Helping Your Child Who Doesn't Fit In. When To Worry and When Not to Worry" by Dr. Perri Klass
34. Quirky, Yes---Hopeless, No: Practical Tips to Help Your Child with Asperger's Syndrome Be More Socially Accepted by Cynthia La Brie Norall
35. Send in the Idiots by Kamran Nazeer
36. Smart but Scattered is a good one on executive skills. Peg Dawson & Richard Guare
37. Socially Curious and Curiously Social: A Social Thinking Guidebook for Teens & Young Adults with Asperger’s, ADHD, PDD-NOS, NVLD, or other Murky Undiagnosed Social Learning Issues" written by Michelle Garcia Winner and Pamela Crooke
38. Speak Up and Get Along, by Scott Cooper
39. Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew by Ellen Notbohm
40. The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome by Tony Attwood
41. The Curious Incident Of The Dog In The Nighttime – novel from the point of view of someone who has aspergers
42. The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene, Ph.D
43. The Trouble With Boys by Peg Tyre
44. The Way I See It: A Personal Look At Autism And Aspergers
45. Women From Another Planet?: Our Lives in the Universe of Autism by Jean Kearns Miller
46. You are a Social Detective by Michelle Garcia Winner and Pamela Crooke

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11 Aug 2012, 9:01 pm

What a fantastic List of resources, thanks! I would add my own book, The Spectrum Manifesto to the list :-)



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12 Aug 2012, 11:31 pm

The lists are missing the excellent book written by one of our members (tracker), "Congratulations! Your Child is Strange" available for download at ASDStuff.com


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19 Aug 2012, 6:56 am

Thank you posters for such a comprehensive source of resources!



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08 Nov 2012, 12:51 pm

I just finished "Riding the Short Bus" by Laurel Duncan. It was very funny but also addressed the sadness that comes with the territory of autism. If you ever read the "Girlfriend's Guide" books when you were pregnant or your kids were little, you get the idea. It was such a relief to read that there are other parents who feel lonely and sad and overwhelmed -- but also laugh at the absurdity that is having a kid on the "A Team."



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29 Nov 2012, 6:55 pm

You know, I know it has nothing to do with autism, but I keep going back to Helen Keller's autobiography and seeing amazing parallels between her struggle to communicate and how it expressed itself, and kids on the spectrum struggling with the same issues. It's available for free online here, and there is plenty of good parenting advice in it, too:

http://digital.library.upenn.edu/women/ ... /life.html



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10 May 2013, 9:50 pm

To this list, add 'A Survival Guide for Kid's with Autism Spectrum Disorders' by Elizabeth Verdick and Elizabeth Reeve.

http://www.freespirit.com/add-adhd-auti ... th-reeve//

Also, 'My brother is Artistic' for a younger sibling.

http://www.amazon.com/My-Brother-Artist ... 1432778129

And this one is not really about autism but the boy here could be Asperger's. It's called 'Oliver" by Birgitta
Sif and it is a beautiful book about a boy who plays with puppets only and ...

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/oliver- ... 1108302637

Good luck!



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23 May 2013, 11:39 pm

The Journal of Best Practices by David Finch is really funny



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30 Jul 2013, 7:53 pm

Has anybody read social story books by either Carol Grey or Jed Baker?

I am trying to find something to help my 6 year old socialize a little easier. He needs a lot of help learning to have two way conversations, how to approach a group, how to join a game already in progress, how to enter an existing conversation, etc.

Any suggestions?



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30 Jul 2013, 10:42 pm

Fitzi wrote:
Has anybody read social story books by either Carol Grey or Jed Baker?

I am trying to find something to help my 6 year old socialize a little easier. He needs a lot of help learning to have two way conversations, how to approach a group, how to join a game already in progress, how to enter an existing conversation, etc.

Any suggestions?
Carol Gray is kind of the gold standard of social stories. Her books and website are very good resources.



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30 Jul 2013, 10:59 pm

Bombaloo wrote:
Carol Gray is kind of the gold standard of social stories. Her books and website are very good resources.


Thanks you! I just ordered The New Social Story Book.



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15 Dec 2013, 11:38 pm

I added a few of my favorite as well. I took the previous lists and updated them with every recommendation up to now. They are in alphabetical order. I'd like categorize them at some point, but I figure I should just share this for now in case anyone else finds it helpful.

I uploaded it to scribd.com so anyone else can download it if they want.


http://www.scribd.com/doc/191732260/Autism-Books



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20 Jan 2014, 1:29 pm

annotated_alice wrote:
The Explosive Child
by Ross W. Greene, Ph.D.

Understanding and Helping Easily Frustrated, "Chronically Inflexible" Children. Brilliant book. Practical, positive parenting methods.


My 7 yr old daughter has Aspergers and she is so easily frustrated that I find myself constantly battling meltdowns over some of the mos trivial things (well trivial to me I'm sure she absolutely feels like it's not trivial at that moment) but, I also have a 5 yr old non-AS daughter and she's picked up on many of the behaviors of my 7 yr old.

I'm also, physically disabled and restraining my daughter is very painful for me and often results in one of us getting hurt. So, I'd really like as many suggestions as possible to help me better understand how to deal with her without physically restraining her. I've been doing some training online at www.autismtrainingsolutions.com in ABA as well. This has helped but, it's still not completely clear how to impliment the ABA techniques into our day to day living.

Thank you for any suggestions and comments



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20 Jan 2014, 2:41 pm

If you take a look at the "Parenting Index" stickied at the top of the board, there are many, many threads on violence collected there. The recommended book is helpful, too.

My first suggestion is that you provide isolation for your daughter when she loses it - this can be either in the form of her going to her room or another safe place (we put a lock on DS's door when we were in the worst of it; I recommend this) or can be in the form of everyone clearing out of where she is.

You may have to make sure that anywhere she might be is essentially baby-proofed so she can't hurt herself or damage your home too much.

My second suggestion is to do an FBA to try to figure out patterns in her behavior. One detail that is often omitted in these: does she have a "tell" when she's about to lose it? (DS used to clench his jaw and his fists) Teach her to go somewhere to calm down as soon as she feels that happening.

There's a lot of collected wisdom on old threads in this forum; I've found it's helpful to google a specific keyword about your concern along with the phrase "Parents' Discussion."



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25 May 2014, 3:24 am

From anxiety to Meltdown by Deborah Lipsky
Such a brilliant book available in paperback and kindle.
I have found this book so useful. The author is aspergers her self. You really get to know how the aspergers person thinks and great advise on what to and not do when having a meltdown. Also advice about autism in general and it is humours in parts.


Im currently reading Asperkids by Jennifer Cook O'Toole.