Myth Of Male Power

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He probably wrote the notes himself, seeing as the website is there to market and promote his book. If he doesnt express his ideas very well in bullet points, it doesnt make me want to watch 19 you tube videos, particularly given that the bandwidth here wont allow me to watch that many without generating a big bill.

I am sorry if he had difficulties with that page but if he is going to write provocative statements like this instead of taking the time to express hmself properly:

http://www.warrenfarrell.org/TheBook/index.html

• Prohibition against divorce gave women security in their workplace (the home). Nothing gave men security in their workplace. P.36


Nice that the home is the woman's workplace.


• Men commit suicide more often when they are unemployed or lose their life savings, so by killing himself, he is "killing the burden," making his suicide an act of love. P.171
• Women attempt suicide more often because they want to become the priority of those they love rather than always prioritizing them. P.171


Interesting that he think male suicide is an act of love whereas female suicide is an act of selfishness


• The teenage female has less demand to perform and more resources to attract love. Her body and mind are more genetic gifts. P.166
• A teenage boy's socialization is the demand to perform without the resources to perform. P.167

So beng a teenage girl is a bowl of cherrries whereas being a teenage boy is very difficult? Not all teenage girls look like supermodels as he seem to think. Eating disorders and cosmetic surgery are a big issue because of the so-called "genetic gifts" that are supposed to advantage females so much.



• Black men, Indian men, and gay men have all have something in common: They do not provide an economic security blanket for women. P.206



Racist?


• The married male executive has a wife who is a financial burden. A married female executive has a husband who is a financial buffer. P.199

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if he is going to make statemnts like this and expect women not to be rubbed up the wrong way then really I dont know what to make of him.

I dont have a lot of time to look at all the information. I will try and watch a couple of the you tubes, but can you blame me for getting a bad impression from that page?

It goes on about war like it is women forcing men to go to war for them while they sit at home and eat bon-bons, but men are actually wired for war, and hunting, and fighting, whereas women are wired to sacrifice their lives for a child, carrying it in their bodies and giving birth. I dont see any sexism in the fact that women dont go to war as much. When men eject babies out of their nether regions like a scene from V, then I will assume my equal role as a warrior, but not before then. I am not physiclly tall or strong enough to be a good warrior, nor is my gun aim good.

Millions of women have died in childbirth since humans have been around but there is not a single monument commemorating the fact that they gave their lives up for a child. Perhaps there should be one, I dont know.

He says men are "the disposable gender", ignoring the millions of chinese baby girls who have been disposed of this century by parents who want a boy. So yes, the bullet point list is pretty questionable in my view.

As for the suicide bit, I actually miread that. But it seems to me now that that page has little to do with what is in the you tubes, and I had pretty much presumed, as the list said it was a synopsis of the book, that it would be in line with the you tubes. At any rate I would rather read the book than watch the you tubes anyway.

That's understandable. And it's understandable that his page paints a pretty bad picture. A shame that it's not a little better made.

I'd love to hear your thoughts if you do read it. Maybe I'll run across a used copy, and read it in full... But I also have a note of reluctance because I'm going to be very susceptible to influence on this subject. I need a contrarian view (hence my grabbing onto this thread like a rottweiler), a counterbalance. I don't trust that I could manage it myself.

Regarding men being wired for war, there may be truth to that... To a point. But our cultures also servers to greatly amplify that theme. It doesn't need to be that way. And, as this guy claims, there have been instances in history where a culture has been okay for food, and had closed, secure borders(like an island), which apparently promoted a far less conflict-oriented man.

Regarding the 'disposable sex' part, even if the Chinese example is notable and tragic, the nature of men's 'disposability' is worldwide and long-running. It's so intrinsic to our histories and cultures that we take it for granted. The only reason that it's at-issue now is because our societies no longer have to worry about basic survival, which is what the gender roles came from. Thus the original configurations - including such details as the automatic preference of multiple dead men over a single dead woman - are no longer entirely logical.

And yes, it's possible that women do deserve a bit more attention regarding the sacrifice of motherhood and childbirth. *shrug* So long as we don't completely miss the quiet, intrinsic obligations of manhood.