Dating Profile Assistance

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I spent close to two years trying to figure out the best way to set up my dating profile. I had some moderate success along the way, but there were always times my profile didn't seem to completely match up with what I wanted to say. I have it set up the way I want now (You can find it here), and I'm getting a decent response rate to my messages.

I just thought that some others on here might want some assistance on how to best set up their dating profiles. (Pictures and writing.) I thought that a thread on how to best make use of the resources available in online dating might be of benefit to everyone on here.

Everyone is welcome to post their profile. Just remember to ask for help if you're wanting it, and everyone giving critique, try to be nice about it. There's a difference between telling someone everything they're doing wrong, and offering them advice on things that they can quickly change, to improve their results.

I hope this thread becomes as useful as I thought it might.

Good idea. I have a written a draft profile but I haven't registered on any dating site yet. However, although I know this is the Love and Dating section, I'm not sure that I would be comfortable showing it here and risk people from a prospective dating site finding it here. It maybe a little more private if this thread were in the Members Only section. I'm not sure how other people feel about this though.

Unless people are in the habit of googling online dating profiles, I don't think it would be much of an issue. The greatest concern is that someone is a member here and at the other site, which really depends on whether you want to talk to them.

I understand your concerns though. I just don't think the risk is very significant. Plus, you can always just post a link, which is what I'm honestly hoping people will resort to in the first place. I don't want to read EVERY profile, just the ones that stick out, or need critique.

Hey, this is a great idea. Just in the last couple months, I've seen a couple people ask for comments on their profile. There are probably also people here who haven't written a profile yet, but want some ideas before jumping in (I've noticed a lot of people here tend towards the wanting-to-know-everything-in-advance-of-trying). Maybe it would also be helpful to post some general principles, perhaps illustrated with examples from your own profile, so such people have a better idea of how to get started?

Hey Pandoran-March. I would totally scrap your self summary section, and put in something a lot more positive and a lot less personal. The rest doesn't look too bad. Also, I'm never sure whether indicating unemployment is a good idea. You can always tell 'em later.

I don't know whether telling prospective dates the predicted lifespan of your veggies is cute or weird. I've AS so how would I know?

May you find what you're looking for.

The entire point is to get it out of the way. Anyone not intent on reading my entire profile will go away long before they get to the end, and those who do read it all see that there's a lot more than that little bit of deprecation.

The point is to get it out of the way quick, so they know, that way if I ever have a meltdown while in contact with them, they won't completely freak out wondering what the hell just happened.

That's been an issue more than once, trust me...

Okay. Just my two cents. If it works, go for it. I see I wasn't reading the OP properly anyway, and that you didn't actually ask for assistance, so my bad.

Girls are probably not going to contact you when it's clear how much baggage you have. And mentioning you visited a mental hospital could make them question your sanity. If I were you, I'd scrap that whole self-summary and leave it until much later in a relationship to tell them about your personal issues and difficult past.

He's not asking for advice on his own profile. I think the whole point of this thread is for other people to ask advice on theirs. As for the self-summery section, I think you need to mention being asocial so that a prospective date knows what to expect. Asperger's isn't exactly something that the average person on the street has. You may get fewer responses but at least the responses you do get will probably from people who would be a little more patient.

Personally, part of the reason why I've delayed registering on a dating site is because I want make a profile that explains AS traits, that they might first notice, without actually saying I've got AS (to avoid pre-judgement) and appearing negative. I don't know if I shouldn't post my draft profile here so that I can ask some advice and ideas on it.

I've revised it since her post, so I hope you both realize you're discussing two entirely different self-summaries.

OK. No problem.