Ever feel like your family don't care about your interests?

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My mom and sister do not care about my special interests at all. My mom actually makes fun of me for loving Doctor Who and Torchwood so much. As long as I don't talk about them around her though, she leaves me alone. However, if I even mention anything related, my mom will say hurtful things. I try not to talk around her because I don't want my feelings to get hurt. I often feel like the internet is the only place I can be myself.

My family don't care about my interests either, so I avoid talking about them. Even though I really want to, I know that if they say something dismissive I'll take it too personally and feel hurt... so I've learned its better to only talk about my obsessions if the person shows an interest (and even then I am hesitant to start, because I know I'll just go into a rambling monologue and have a hard time 'reeling it in').

On the other hand, they do try sometimes. Like my mom once said 'oh not this again' when I started trying to show her a clip related to my obsession, which to me was hurtful and a signal not to bring it up again. But the next time I saw her, she brought something up that was related, as a way to make conversation, and later let me show her some clips and was much more receptive. Since i don't talk to her very much normally I think she realised it was a way to connect with me and saw how happier I was to share my interests with her. But I guess it required some patience on her side.

I try to see it as a two way street - If I don't care about their interests, why would they want to listen to me bore them with mine? If I show an interest in them, maybe they'll be more receptive to my interests. That helps give me some perspective when I take their disinterest too personally.

I don't expect my family to care about WWII, Germany and Hogan's Heroes. Expecting them to do that is like my mum expecting me to grow up and be a woman, even though I identify as a very young male in his 20s. Those expectations are very unrealistic.

About the only thing I can bond with my mother about is my interest in the 1970s. She's not a fan of the clothes from the era though, whereas I am. Everytime I see some 70s-style clothing I like she's all "why would you want to wear THAT?"

My little brother's getting into anime and I do enjoy talking about it with him though, so that's a plus.

I have been trying for 7 years to find a hobby/interest that my parents would approve of and that interests me. I have so many things I would like to do, for example, gardening (too messy they say), art (pointless apparently), or maybe even sewing (it's too hard for you). After I'm done with schoolwork, there is nothing to do. Every single day I sit in my room, listening to music till I fall asleep. When I wake up I make tea and drink it, then go back to sleep. I wish I could do something important, but there's nothing I'm allowed to do. This has been my life for a long time now. I need help. ;-;

My family still don't care about my interests. Now that there's been a clash of cultures in my family for 5 years to this month, my mum really doesn't care about my interests. There was one time three years ago that I brought a library book over to my parents place to read. It was a book on Berlin. My mum asked me what I was reading. I showed her the cover instead of just merely telling her. She said, "Berlin....Eww." She doesn't know anything about Germany because she's afraid of that country because her dad was stationed in England during WWII. I don't know if Covid is a curse or a blessing. We're certainly having a long break from each other. I still phone her at least three times a week, being the bigger person.

It depends on which interest. My brothers and dad have all dabbled in playing instruments over the years; my dad is a big car buff; my brother is pretty interested in history although not to the extent I am.

I don't want my family to care too much about my special interests.

And I don't want my family bugging about it -- to me, it'll feel more intrusive than caring or encouraging.
They may inquire or request or support via providing something useful, but nothing more than that.

I thank the fact that most of my special interests does not manifests verbally.

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