Are autistic people more immature

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Hosting a visitor from overseas who, like myself, is very interested in birds, I took him to the Auckland zoo especially to see the kiwis, though we also really enjoyed seeing the beautiful grounds and other animals who live there - particularly the rare Tasmanian Devils, and we walked through a beautiful park nearby where we saw a native New Zealand white heron, the Kotuku, which is very rarely sighted in this part of New Zealand, (only three sightings in years) which thrilled us both. What a wonderful day it was. If this is immaturity, I aim to be as immature as possible as often as possible whenever possible, and one thing I love about being part of the ASD world is that so many of us have a deep respect for other kinds of animals.

So what is maturity to the OP? I know this is an old post though it would have been revealing to request the OP to define his/her opinion as to what constitutes proper "mature" NT behaviour - and what activities he/she thinks are characteristic of and permissible within his/her definition.. then we can all strive to live up to that, lol.

OP quote:
"Also, sentence structure and word choices more childish, immature, slang etc..."

So kind of NTs to share their superior insights for our own good.. I will certainly bear this in mind if I should decide to do my doctorate after all. What would we do without helpful advice like this from our betters?

Ive been more immature in interests but more mature in judgement skills then some of my own age group.

I know people who can do all of those things, yet their understanding of life is narrow, undeveloped, and they have not mastered the adult task of thinking for themselves and taking responsibility for their choices, so I don't regard them as models of maturity at all. People may show all those basic competencies but still manifest poor-me, life is never fair, it's never my fault, I am always right and everyone else is wrong characteristics which to my mind are far more indicative of immaturity patterns.

As I said in a different thread on a similar subject, I was born old.

I may have had a speech delay, but I definitely had problems with speech, which, although the school district tried to address the issue, my parents (Mom, in particular) fought them tooth and nail, just like they fought the school district regardless what activity I was involved with.

I also have horrible handwriting. To this day, I'm told I'm a lazy sonofabitch because my handwriting is like an M.D. I point out that have you ever tried to read handwritten script when the doctor hands you a prescription to be filled, and it gets thrown in my face that the doctor is all-wise (<sarcasm>RIIIIIIGHT!! !! !! !! !</sarcasm>) and I'm an idiot. I try to tell people how badly my wrists hurt (and now, with having carpal tunnel in both wrists, I don't get jumped on as much), I was always told by both teachers and my parents I was full of sh!t and I'm a lazy sonofabitch and not trying hard enough to be neat.

I seldom was invited to parties of any kind, unless it a group I was involved with. Even then, I was a bit uncomfortable, because, with the exception of church choir, alcohol was involved. I don't like drunks (my maternal grandfather was the town drunk, and he got quite vicious when drunk), and I can't stand the smell and taste of alcoholic beverages.

When it comes to finances, they're always in a mess. My checking account is continually bouncing. I'm surprised my current bank hasn't closed my account. I try not to bounce a check, but it's damn hard not to do so when the gas gauge in the car is sitting on E, and I have a doctor's appointment in Baltimore, and it's 3 weeks until I get my next SSDI payment. Credit cards are even worse. Add to that my most recent stays in hospital, with the bills I ran up because the Medicare advantage plan I signed up for didn't pay for everything, having to spend $900.00 to get my car out of the shop this past month, because of a $7.00 fuse, $100.00 for a new alternator, a $200.00 car payment, a$111.00 car insurance payment, a $350.00 towing and storage bill, and you'll understand why I don't have much food around the house, why sprint is ready to disconnect and take both my iPhone 6 plus and my iPad Air 2 that I lease from them because I owe them $300.00 for last month's, as well as this month's service, which I'm not able to pay them the full amount again this month, since I have to put a new down pipe on my car this month so I can get my car to pass both PA safety and emissions inspection, and why I don't go much of anywhere.

[quote="Meistersinger"]

|I also have horrible handwriting.'


Many of the most brilliant - genius level - people I know have appalling handwriting. You are in good company there MS.

..I probably am - At least , " as people would define it " .

"Well if immature is running around, going to bars and raves, drinking and getting drunk, smoking the occasional joint and having sex with someone on the first, second, or third date, then people with AS generally aren't, and NT's generally are. "


I agree that it's stupid. I've heard lots of women complaining about immature geek men who like comics and video games, but the biggest selling men's books here are either about business sleaze/mafia or autobiographies of racing drivers. Is that really so much more noble and admirable than comics.