Will women think you are creepy if you hit on them?
Its a numbers game. I've heard that. How do you maximize the number of women you can hit on?
Wow, really. When I read that I read "How can I ruin the day of the most women I can on the off chance that one perhaps could consider me ok?"
Putting people's( in this case women's) sense of security, comfort (and often selfrespect) on the line because you feel entitled to their time is not ok!
Well, okay, How do you flirt with as many women as possible? This may be a language/cultural thing.
Um.. the same way as you would with one.. but do it more
I need help not sarcasm.
I wasn't being sarcastic.
I suspect he's not asking the right questions.
Its a numbers game. I've heard that. How do you maximize the number of women you can hit on?
Wow, really. When I read that I read "How can I ruin the day of the most women I can on the off chance that one perhaps could consider me ok?"
Putting people's( in this case women's) sense of security, comfort (and often selfrespect) on the line because you feel entitled to their time is not ok!
Well, okay, How do you flirt with as many women as possible? This may be a language/cultural thing.
Um.. the same way as you would with one.. but do it more
I need help not sarcasm.
I wasn't being sarcastic.
I suspect he's not asking the right questions.
Where do you go? What do you say there? When do you say it?
You've gotten lots of advice in this thread and the many you posted like it. Now, are you going to use that advice, or just poke holes in people's logic by asking rhetorical questions?
You misunderstood me. Those questions were actually question.
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I meant ameteur attempts at pseudo-psychology aside.
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Back to the original question, I think it depends on who you're flirting with--most likely you're trying to pick up on NT gals and I have no idea what to tell you then. I know for me, it feels creepy when a guy comes on really strong. Of course, the catch-22 is, I generally can't pick up on a "normal" level of flirting until days later or unless someone else points it out. If we don't know each other and *I* notice you're staring at me, you've been staring a very, very, VERY long time.
What feels creepy is that these 'come on strong' guys tend to be after a physical thing, because who I am or what I'm like or what I'm interested in are all unknowns and therefore irrelevant. So, to have someone come on strong just on appearance...yes, that's creepy...I could be a blow up doll and it would make no difference. My advice is, if you want to have a relationship--find a gal that has some common interests and relate to each other. If you want to 'hit on' someone for the thrill of the hunt, the conquest or so she can be an outlet for your sexual tension--guess what, that's creepy, because she isn't a person with her own needs/wants but a thing.
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Back to the original question, I think it depends on who you're flirting with--most likely you're trying to pick up on NT gals and I have no idea what to tell you then. I know for me, it feels creepy when a guy comes on really strong. Of course, the catch-22 is, I generally can't pick up on a "normal" level of flirting until days later or unless someone else points it out. If we don't know each other and *I* notice you're staring at me, you've been staring a very, very, VERY long time.
What feels creepy is that these 'come on strong' guys tend to be after a physical thing, because who I am or what I'm like or what I'm interested in are all unknowns and therefore irrelevant. So, to have someone come on strong just on appearance...yes, that's creepy...I could be a blow up doll and it would make no difference. My advice is, if you want to have a relationship--find a gal that has some common interests and relate to each other. If you want to 'hit on' someone for the thrill of the hunt, the conquest or so she can be an outlet for your sexual tension--guess what, that's creepy, because she isn't a person with her own needs/wants but a thing.
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If you want to 'hit on' someone for the thrill of the hunt, the conquest or so she can be an outlet for your sexual tension--guess what, that's creepy, because she isn't a person with her own needs/wants but a thing.
THIS.
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all good advice here,
but unfortunately if you truly are an aspie its gonna be near impossible to reprogram yourself to "act" the part like all the advice here.
worst yet if you are talking to a stranger, gonna be 10 times harder since we are already social ret*ds
at least for me, I've pretty much given up trying
better for me to not know them and at least not have one more person hating me as a creep
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