Beginning a relationship with somebody who has a child?

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15 Aug 2010, 3:59 pm

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Who cares if she gets hurt? Think about yourself first and foremost. Nobody's there to catch you when you fall.

WOW. That is so selfish and inconsiderate.

While the "who cares" part may be somewhat inconsiderate, you have to remember that you're the best person to look out for yourself; others won't do a good job at it, if at all. That girl doesn't sound good at all: she sets off more red flags than the Soviet Union. Consider the following:

1. She got pregnant at age 16. At this day and age, there is no excuse for that: in most cities, students get educated about contraception in high school, and in some cases, even in middle school. By age 16, she should know better than to have unprotected sex. (Unless, of course, this was a genuine mishap, like the condom breaking.)
2. She went for the power and glamor of a "hot" guy, and ended up with a jerk who dumped her because she got pregnant. He clearly lacks the integrity to take responsibility for his actions. She, in turn, lacks the ability to distinguish between a good guy and someone who will just give her the Humpty Dumpty treatment (i.e. hump her, then dump her).
3. She found a new boyfriend who's just as shady and the old one. This means that she didn't learn her from being dumped after getting pregnant, and continues to make the same irresponsible decisions. This could easily endanger your physical safety, should the new boyfriend get the impression you're stealing his girl.

Start phasing yourself out of her life. The last thing you want is her sticking you with the responsibility of raising kids that aren't your own, while she continues to go out and have unprotected sex. Or worse, committing paternity fraud, because it doesn't seem out of character for her to do that. (Good thing we have the Maury show to help fight it.) She may have been a good friend to you when you were both 12, but as she got older, she got stupider instead of wiser, and made some bad decisions. I feel more sorry for her family than for her, and you have no obligation to stay with her, because of the person she became.


She isn't a whore. She was with this guy for 2-3 years and she was on the pill and they used condoms. It was one of those freak mishaps where she got pregnant and her little douche of a boyfriend dumped her as soon as she told him she was pregnant and he went off immediately with some other girl.



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15 Aug 2010, 5:01 pm

She is. She just has a different payment plan. :twisted:



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15 Aug 2010, 5:21 pm

RICKY5 wrote:
She is. She just has a different payment plan. :twisted:


Why don't you shut the hell up!?



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15 Aug 2010, 5:39 pm

Xenu wrote:
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She is. She just has a different payment plan. :twisted:


Why don't you shut the hell up!?

:thumright: :thumleft: Someone needed to tell him that! :thumright: :thumleft:



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15 Aug 2010, 8:10 pm

Xenu wrote:
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She is. She just has a different payment plan. :twisted:


Why don't you shut the hell up!?


Life is a joke. Enjoy the punch line.



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15 Aug 2010, 10:09 pm

RICKY5 wrote:
Xenu wrote:
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She is. She just has a different payment plan. :twisted:


Why don't you shut the hell up!?


Life is a joke. Enjoy the punch line.

really, your comments are thoughtless and unacceptable. ick.


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16 Aug 2010, 12:24 am

Everyone should just ignore Ricky wherever he shows up. He just wants attention; so deny it. I have yet to see a serious post from him in any thread on here.



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16 Aug 2010, 6:08 pm

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Everyone should just ignore Ricky wherever he shows up. He just wants attention; so deny it. I have yet to see a serious post from him in any thread on here.

ahh ok. i hadn't realized.


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16 Aug 2010, 6:34 pm

You're a young man -- don't get hooked up with someone who has a kid. It's just a lot of problems and worries at an age when you should be having fun. Also, the kid is going to (and should) always come first -- can you deal with that? And can you deal with the pressure to become a dad? Single mothers are notorious for trying to get resources to take care of the little one.