Are you looked down on by family members

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Yes, but it no longer bothers me.

My younger sister, whom I normally don't get along with, told my grandmother she would like to "take care of me" when my parents die. She'll let me live in her house, work in her business etc.

On the contrary, many of them look up to me. Clear evidence that they do not know me very well.

I'm looked down upon by them unless I'm doing what they want me to do, and being who they want me to be. My family has no identity, collective or individual, so they don't like me because I have one. They all conform to expected norms; I don't. They want me to be more like what society wants me to be, and I want them to leave me alone and shut the hell up. My distrust of authority figures, as with most people like this, started with my family members. I did enough experiments to determine that they didn't know what they were talking about, and by the time I was a junior in high school, I stopped listening to their self-serving advice, and I've grown as a person ever since.

Parents, brother and grandparents? No. Everyone else? Yes.

the extreme way to deal with family is to do what i did........left and never looked back. my situation was a bit more extreme than yours....well.....way more extreme. if things get so bad you've got to get away, it is possible.

i joined the air force at 17 and when i got out at 21 i remember standing outside the sfo airport with a duffelbag and the money i saved, and, being completely alone. no where to go and no one to see. i thought that was 'great'.

free at last-free at last.......to quote a great man.

The story continues...

Back in 1998, I was diagnosed with Depression and Psychosis. My mum told me that she didn't think the Mod thing was working for me and that I needed a counselor. She wanted to take my identity away from me and turn me into a typical woman. She talked me into buying feminine clothes that I never did wear. She also kept asking me what I ever wanted with horn rimmed glasses. She also gave me flack for being the way that I am. She got on my case for telling those younger girls that I hung out with, that I would not have sex, whatsoever. She didn't like that I grew up to be masculine and innocent, so she taunted me for turning out to be just like Mick Avory, saying how close I came to him 2 times under the same breath. I agree with her there, but with self pride. She was embarassed that I was masculine, sensitive and innocent. She wanted me to be a mentally tough sex kitten.

My dad stated the obvious to me between 1996 and the time that I moved out in 2006. He'd state facts to me that I knew at the age of 6, because he confused AS with having an Intellectual Disability. Maybe he didn't see himself doing that deliberatly, but I saw it differently. Maybe I shouldn't have gotten those horn rimmed glasses. I should have been honest with the eye specialists. Maybe it would have been better for my natural looks to shine through.

That's enough for now.