living by your own,-aspies females.(?)

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It certainly is possible. And yes, there are a few risks.

I think try it, just make sure you can go home if it doesn't suit. Apply for social workers or mentors (there are organisations for this) to help you with keeping track of practical things/run social questions past if you're not sure of them.

I am also bad at spotting red flags, but I've found that if you spend time with a man even if you tell him it's as friends, he may still try to push you into dating him. The best things I've found to do are meet any new people out for coffee instead of letting them into your house, and if a male makes you feel uncomfortable you say NO (to whatever it is) and tell your support people. Don't tell new women your personal business right away - they may spread your secrets or tease you - but when you know them better you can trust them more and ask for help if you need.

Also be careful of living on takeaway meals and drinking alcohol because they're expensive and use up all your money.
Put your keys on a lanyard carry loop, and don't lose them
Lock your room when you're not in it because flatmates might take your money/things, and make sure any flatmates pay their share of the rent right away (don't pay it for them). Oh yeah. And draw up a roster so they do their share of the housework.

I've been living on my own for five years and I love it. I get my chores done and my rent payed on time. The only thing is that I need to set a budget and I'm working on that, right now. It will be interesting to see how much money I'll have in my bank account on Canada Day, this year.

Yep. I lived alone from the age of 19 to the age of 26, when I moved in when the now-husband. I worked and graduated college and had zero problems.

Oh, I loved living alone! I still fantasize about it, although as a married woman it's not an option. The freedom to do what I wanted, when I wanted...no one but me to cook for, I could sleep with the lights on, I I could do my chores at 2 AM if I felt like it! I could blast music and dance all afternoon, or game into the wee hours of the morning because I had only my own schedule to keep to. The bed stayed made, the place was clean, trash and recycling got out on time, clutter didn't pile up, dishes got washed and stored quickly. Only myself to support, so I saved so much money in the bank! No one depending on me but me, I could decorate the place any way I liked, I had two closets to myself, I never had to worry that someone left the toilet seat up (unless my friends were over)...so many good things! I'm an introvert, so I didn't get loney very often. One the rare occasions that I did, I'd call up my ex-bf, he'd pick me up, and we'd hang at his place with his roommates and our other friends. Everyone should have the chance to live alone, no roommates, no lover, just you and your freedom! It's GREAT! (Put your bills on auto-pay; I did and I never had a problem with it. Later, I got my husband into auto-pay and we still use it.)

BTW, at the time I had a one-bedroom in Massachusetts and my parents lived in Pennsylvania. I had no relatives nearby to help me out or bail me out. I had to get responsible real fast...and it felt good!

I'm 18 and currently live with my parents while attending college. The only thing that holds me back from living alone is my deteriorating physical health. Nothing with Asperger's makes it so I can't live alone in the future.