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20 Feb 2018, 11:18 am

Welp, the United States postal service has failed me... I sent a highly important document out on the 7th hoping to meet a deadline on the 13th, and here we are on the 20th and it still hasn't quite reached its destination. And of course when asked about this, an employee goes "Well this is not our guaranteed service. The policy for this service is up to 14 business days," sooooo... the only hope I have is that the postmarked date counts and not the delivery date, otherwise I'm all kinds of screwed.


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20 Feb 2018, 1:12 pm

thinking about the possibility that i may end up living with three women not too far into the future. :|


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20 Feb 2018, 1:16 pm

Sharing the rent?

There was a show called "Three's Company" in the 1970s and 1980s, where a man shared an apartment with two women.

He was a straight guy---but he had to pretend to be gay in front of the landlord so he (the landlord) would rent the apartment to them.



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20 Feb 2018, 2:34 pm

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I am thinking about self-compassion and how it helps to heal old wounds. :heart:


I need to work on that.


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20 Feb 2018, 2:37 pm

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I am thinking about self-compassion and how it helps to heal old wounds. :heart:

I went to a self-compassion workshop a couple of years back.
It was probably the most useful spiritual workshop I've ever been to.


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20 Feb 2018, 4:06 pm

I try not to leave home without it - self-compassion that is.

Too often we forget to give this to ourselves as we would others. :heart:



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20 Feb 2018, 5:05 pm

I still feel like a stranger even after 3 1/2 years.


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20 Feb 2018, 6:50 pm

I hate being laughed at for showing compassion to all living things. In one of my group therapy sessions today, one of the things we did was come up with times we displayed several qualities, and one of them was kindness. I said I display it when I move worms off the sidewalk so they don't dry out and die, and catch arthropods and let them go outside when most people would squish them. Everyone in the group laughed, even the instructor. I don't get what's so funny about it. They're living things just like us, so I treat them with some respect and compassion - why is that funny?


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20 Feb 2018, 6:52 pm

it's snowing and cold outside. :pale:



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20 Feb 2018, 7:00 pm

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I hate being laughed at for showing compassion to all living things. In one of my group therapy sessions today, one of the things we did was come up with times we displayed several qualities, and one of them was kindness. I said I display it when I move worms off the sidewalk so they don't dry out and die, and catch arthropods and let them go outside when most people would squish them. Everyone in the group laughed, even the instructor. I don't get what's so funny about it. They're living things just like us, so I treat them with some respect and compassion - why is that funny?

because the dark triad traits are far more common in our frankly sociopathic culture, than many polite people are willing to entertain. :idea: the veneer of civilization is "thinner than the homeopathic soup made by boiling the bones of the ghost of a chicken which starved to death." [Abe Lincoln]



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20 Feb 2018, 7:05 pm

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I hate being laughed at for showing compassion to all living things. In one of my group therapy sessions today, one of the things we did was come up with times we displayed several qualities, and one of them was kindness. I said I display it when I move worms off the sidewalk so they don't dry out and die, and catch arthropods and let them go outside when most people would squish them. Everyone in the group laughed, even the instructor. I don't get what's so funny about it. They're living things just like us, so I treat them with some respect and compassion - why is that funny?


The majority of Homo sapiens, thinks, or rather Believes they are above the rest of the animal kingdom.


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20 Feb 2018, 8:29 pm

dragonsanddemons wrote:
I hate being laughed at for showing compassion to all living things. In one of my group therapy sessions today, one of the things we did was come up with times we displayed several qualities, and one of them was kindness. I said I display it when I move worms off the sidewalk so they don't dry out and die, and catch arthropods and let them go outside when most people would squish them. Everyone in the group laughed, even the instructor. I don't get what's so funny about it. They're living things just like us, so I treat them with some respect and compassion - why is that funny?


I do the same--I pick ants up and put them in the green bin or outside. I try very hard to be kind to every being, no matter how small. Hugs for you. :heart:


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20 Feb 2018, 10:31 pm

dragonsanddemons wrote:
I hate being laughed at for showing compassion to all living things. In one of my group therapy sessions today, one of the things we did was come up with times we displayed several qualities, and one of them was kindness. I said I display it when I move worms off the sidewalk so they don't dry out and die, and catch arthropods and let them go outside when most people would squish them. Everyone in the group laughed, even the instructor. I don't get what's so funny about it. They're living things just like us, so I treat them with some respect and compassion - why is that funny?

not funny at all. i do the same thing. they're alive and want to stay alive. facilitating that is certainly compassion. you are more compassionate than those other folks in the group.



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21 Feb 2018, 3:53 am

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Sharing the rent?

There was a show called "Three's Company" in the 1970s and 1980s, where a man shared an apartment with two women.

He was a straight guy---but he had to pretend to be gay in front of the landlord so he (the landlord) would rent the apartment to them.


yeah, hoping to make cost of living a bit easier between all of us. it's my girlfriend, and two of her friends. none of this is concrete yet but she has discussed it with me and maybe some of them.

do landlords typically balk at guys sharing roofs with other girls?


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21 Feb 2018, 9:18 am

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dragonsanddemons wrote:
I hate being laughed at for showing compassion to all living things. In one of my group therapy sessions today, one of the things we did was come up with times we displayed several qualities, and one of them was kindness. I said I display it when I move worms off the sidewalk so they don't dry out and die, and catch arthropods and let them go outside when most people would squish them. Everyone in the group laughed, even the instructor. I don't get what's so funny about it. They're living things just like us, so I treat them with some respect and compassion - why is that funny?

not funny at all. i do the same thing. they're alive and want to stay alive. facilitating that is certainly compassion. you are more compassionate than those other folks in the group.


I agree, it is not funny but heart warming. Those people who were laughing are unable to understand your level of compassion and respect for life. They do not possess your level of empathy and sensitivity.
I also wonder if any were actually laughing in a heart warming way because they would do it too?
I have a way of ushering flies out of the door - although some can be stubborn and want to stay. So yes I do the same as both of you - worms are very useful creatures.



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21 Feb 2018, 1:59 pm

^ I've just been reading that people are likely to laugh at something unexpected.
So could it be that those people were expecting a story of human kindness?
It may not have been a malicious rudeness, but still rude to laugh, I guess.


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