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08 Feb 2011, 11:22 am

starygrrl pretty much put it perfectly.



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08 Feb 2011, 12:47 pm

Excellent post starygrrl ! !

This should be framed and displayed in the Hall of Fame. It might be helpful to have a some type of read only "sticky thread" for posts like this. Where people that come here looking for advice with their AS partner can be directed.

It wouldn't preclude anyone from asking questions and it would prevent valuable posts like this from fading away into the mix.



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08 Feb 2011, 1:13 pm

knm73500 wrote:
As an abstract concept, it is want he wants, but he has a hard time making that translate into concrete action.


Want he wants. That actually makes a lot of sense. Let's face it, living with your parents in your mid-twenties in this economy is not that out out of the ordinary. So finding reasons to have some motivation may be helpful for him.

knm73500 wrote:
I suppose that the key here is patience, and that's something I'm willing to give. I don't want to operate under ultimatums or anything like that.

I will continue encouraging him. I think that's the best thing to do, from what I've gathered.


Ultimatums, no. Encouragement with a twist of slight pressure might be ok. Without that twist of slight pressure, he may never have motivation. Anything you do, proceed with caution.

Good luck.



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08 Feb 2011, 6:01 pm

@TheWeirdPig--sorry about the typo. That is what I meant.

Thanks to everyone for the advice. It does help to hear it from those who have experienced something similar.



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13 Feb 2011, 6:45 pm

knm73500 wrote:
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Damn, you're hot. The lucky bastard.

Advice? Buy him an XBox.


Oh geez.


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