Why does Facebook not work for people with AS?

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Just seems like a waste of time and additional stress to me.

It works fine for me. I go on Facebook a lot. But... Socializing online can still be difficult in some ways, so it could be possible that a lot of Aspies don't have the same sort of network of friends on there that many other people have. I have friended some people i know in real life, like former coworkers, and if they post something interesting then i reply. I like the way it is, because you can just comment on something without a whole conversation. That part makes it easier. I still don't feel like i'm part of the crowd when i'm on facebook(or other places online, for that matter), though.. just like in real life. Most other people seem to have a network of friends on there that really "get" eachother. I can tell that there are differences between how i interact with friends on facebook and how many others do. It's something about how other people are more personal or can talk and joke around about things they did together all the time. Hard to explain, but i think there can be differences between Aspies and NTs even when it comes to internet socializing.

Anyway.. On my iPhone i have a facebook app that i check multiple times a day. One of my favorite things about Facebook is that there are pages for different things. I sometimes check and post on certain pages a little obsessively. In fact, i won Reptiles magazine's monthly facebook fan contest for a free subscription for posting on their page regularly. I post on pages related to things i like more than i post on people's pages. I do like being able to keep track of people i know, though. Outside of family, i don't see most people i know very often and i have very few friends.. So i've found that Facebook makes me feel more connected.

Facebook is more adding people you already know. It's not for meeting new people! Even Nt's dont use it for that. Twitter is more about communicating with strangers. Although i havent met anyone irl from there so in a sense that doesnt work either.

I often add people I don't know IRL to my facebook.

I play a lot of the facebook games. They require you to have lots of facebook friends. I add a lot of people that I don't know just to get game friends.

I deleted mine also. i prefer message boards

It sort of works for me, it's a little depressing when I see photo's of others socialising when I don't get a chance to, but without it I'd not be able to keep in touch with people I know...although granted thanks to FB fewer people seem to chat online, post in blogs, etc. so it also kills the communication between friends as much as it helps keep people in touch. I tend to add lots of people for FB games, some of whom I do socialise with online more than I do with my IRL friends, although again FB has killed things like randomly chatting to people on MSN or ICQ, which was once a major way for me to communicate with others.

It has it's pluses and negatives...I think for AS it helps us stay in touch with others but limits communication, the same as for NT's.

Facebook doesn't work for me because it seems to be primarily an extension of existing real life social affairs.

I have one, and have 'friends' on it, but most are people I went to school with who I didn't talk to in school...

And family, who I don't talk to regularly..

I post intellectual 'notes', pictures/info of places of historical interest, old coins, insects, etc and nobody notices. Someone posts a pic from the new bar in town, or some inane jabber about partying/being drunk, going to the gym, or changes their 'relationship status' and 20+ comments materialize.

I deleted it at one point, but put it back up because anytime I would run into someone (namely family) they would say "I thought we were friends on Facebook..." (just like the Sout Park episode, I swear) although there was no contact prior to my deletion. It became easier to just have it and let it sit rather than have it deleted (OMGZ, socially unacceptable to not have a facebook!)