How to cope with lonliness, and bad situations?

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I have been back home now for six months , no friends, no dates, no work, on the weekends I think of the life I just lost and how I have to start again in a new place, (after 13 different schools in four states, I graduated college, survived a coma, osteomiolitis, being drugged and robbed, family issues,......... the list goes on.) despite this I found an different country where I could flourish, be accepted and sought after, have a love life, great weather, nice people. My business stopped being profitable with the currency exchange rate and I couldn't find a job there even with being bilingual, top 50 college degree,

I am only 26, I had a few enjoyable years of my life in a different country, I don't want to live a life remembering those few years as my best, I hate being lonely,
I hate spending my weekends alone in the house or just going out and being alone, since I have been back just walking on the street I was called an Arab, then in a bar reffered to as a Mexican by a girl, rejected for my height twice I am 5'6.5 . I am actually third generation american , with Russian, Romanian, Spanish and Puerto Rican heritage.

If anyone has any advice on dealing with loneliness, unemployment, living with injustice, being treated like sh-it that would be great,

I'm really sorry that your struggling.
Where do you live? Are there any support groups near you? If your religious, you could join a church. Maybe you could do some volunteer work and help people out. As far as jobs go, don't be too hard on yourself, its a tough economy for everyone right now. There are tips online that will help you make the job resume stand out. Maybe you could meet some people at a gym or at a coffee place. If you do get hired, get to know the people at your workplace. In terms of dating, there are websites where you can meet people online for dates. Take a class that has to do with your interest. Maybe enroll in college again (if financially possible), they have clubs, groups, you can get help. Sports maybe?

Just remember, you have to make an effort if you want friendship, companionship, jobs, whatever. Its not gonna be easy (I sure as hell struggle with social relationships a lot, but I'm starting to get bit better). Hope this helps somewhat.

I don't have any advice, really. I deal with the same sort of issues. Just wanting to say I identify with you.

*hug*

For what it's worth, in your avatar you look really attractive and I'm not sure why ignorant people are picking on you in the street. Maybe they're jealous. You certainly have an exotic mix of genes. If I was there with you I would go yell at them to get lost.

I really don't know what else to say. How can we deal with loneliness, other than finding ways to distract ourselves from it? It's either that or cry. I do so much crying that I'm sick of it. Crying sucks.

I don't have significant friends and I don't see anyone and no one comes to visit me, so I know exactly how you feel.

I know that doesn't constitute advice, but I just thought it might make you feel better to know that somebody else feels the same.

Maybe not. It might make you feel worse. We all like to feel we're unique, and that we're the only person in the world who's wallowing in misery! Such is human nature.

Which is your second language? Just curious! Apparently it could be Romanian, Spanish, or Russian!