KBerg wrote:
The total expectation of participation bothers me. It's assumed that I have a facebook page because, well, everyone has a facebook page. How else would we have meaningful convers.. I mean throw sheep at one another? Too many people equate facebook with being reachable. I still have email, I have a cell, a ground line and an AIM/MSN handle for IMing.
The assumptions about facebook and people bother me far more than the existence of facebook. When it is assumed that the only reason someone would have for not being on facebook is because they simply don't like people. I like people fine. But I take some serious exceptions to facebook's privacy policy and attitude towards security when it comes to third party addons and other software, how they handle their updates and how they creep a little closer on privacy and security settings every time.
And to be honest, people always find some new social whatever that will make it a thousand times easier to keep in touch. But it never holds. Because really, most of the people you lost track of you probably didn't care an awful lot about keeping in touch with anyway. Otherwise why would people who claimed to want to keep in touch with me ignore the fact that my email hasn't changed in over 12 years and they've had the address forever? Usually as well as my phone number and home address. The real reason they didn't send an email was that it either wasn't important enough to them, or they felt guilty that they hadn't in a while and then it just got tougher and tougher for them to send anything as it time went on. Having a new social network site doesn't fix that, it's a people problem, not a technology problem.
That - all of it
I tried it for a very short time and found it horribly invasive and stressful. Especially the constant notifications, friends of friends, total strangers or people I vaguely knew 20 years ago all want to be "friends" and from where I'm standing there's no connection whatsoever between a friend and a "facebook friend".
I'm also practical about this stuff, if I'm interested in someone I always stay in touch in one way or another, if I didn't it means I'm just not interested
And some people get really weird about it, if you say you don't have one and don't like it they react like you slapped them.
Not that I have anything against those who enjoy it, but for me lack of privacy and constant intrusion are a total nightmare.
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