I'm 25 and I'm still bullied by kids

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Geez, if these are just kids, you shouldn't let it get to you. You're twenty-five right? That means that if you let people way younger than you hurt your feelings by saying a few stupid things you're sinking down to *their* level. These kids are younger and probably know less than you. They're still in their developing stages and trying to challenge older people, whom they probably percieve as some kind of opressors. You just have to understand that they're less mature than you and they'll probably grow out of it when they're older.

So familiar. I used to walk home from school sometimes when I was about 17 or 18 (in high school). Some little boys (around 10 or so) would yell at me and make fun of me as I walked past, every time. It made me feel very bad, especially because I doubted very much they would have yelled the same sorts of things to a "normal"-looking/-acting girl my age.

What I think is worse than the teasing, though (and believe me--I went through enough of it for ten people in grades 1-12; no friends, school "weirdo," all that), is for psychologists and such (in my case, whom I saw once I started college and was alone most of the time) to tell you that your primary problem is a self-esteem/emotional one, that you're imagining it all. That will take you no where but around in circles. (There's nothing worse than being a bullied person with an ASD who's told that the bullying exists only in your paranoid mind.)

I hate to say it, but the people who tease are doing it for a reason--it's not a case of hyper-concidentalness (i.e., that kids at three or four different schools all teased me in the same way). They're engaging in normal human behavior. And whether or not they know why they're doing what they're doing (99 times out of 100 they don't), their reasons are all the same one, on some level.

Four words:Get a TOW missile.

Preteens bully me all the time, just because I look different, and I'm not wearing the garbage that they are. If I stand up for myself, they make fun of my accent, and tell me to go back to England, than I can't stick up for myself in that department because nobody believes that I'm Canadian, anyways. I'm thankful that my mum gives me a ride home to my apartment, after dark.

Avoid eye contact with the children; see if that helps.

They do it on purpose and according to plan.

It is personal.

Their parents often put them up to it.

There are subtle ways to let it be known, without doing anything actionable, that the next action that you might take could be very damaging or lethal, and if they are not up to killing you they had better quit the game. If you find a way to show them that you will put your life on the line to stop them, they will usually stop. One thing that might work, if it is intense and they live within sight of your house, would be to build a fairly large fire in your front yard and burn some dolls in it. That's just a thought, anyway. No person should be allowed to believe that they can harass with impunity.

It rots a man's mind, it really does. I don't think that I have the means to erase the conditioning. They will of course hold me "responsible" for my actions if I ever take any but why in HELL did they never, ever hold the others responsible for their actions? If I did the same things to others I would probably be in jail or dead.

i think that these kisd are all stupid a** h**** ( i usually don't cuss, and i am not right now, i am bleeping myself, but these kids are in dire need to be mentally hit HARD).
once ( quite rescently ) when my father and i were picking up Mcdonald's and a kid a kid yelled at someone ( presumably at my father ) yelled out " get the f*** out of my way!!". emediately, my dad verbally 'convinced' the kid to treat his elders with proper respect there elders and to watch his language around seventh graders. ( this kid looked like he was around college age) now i do not suggest you use the same "vocabulary' as my father, but yelling at these kids would be a good idea, and if there parents call you, tell them what they did to you. just an idea you can try next time you are confonronted with these abusive juvinials.

I have a solution to this problem. To avoid bullying, you have to outshine confidence and masculinity. As mentioned earlier, walk with your head up, shoulders relaxed and keep telling yourself(not loud of course!) that you're the most bad-ass, perfect person on this earth.

I have had positive results from this. No one bullies me anymore unless they are much bigger than me, and my confidence attracts people.

When I was a kid I turned away or hid when bullied. As an adolescense i retaliated phsycially. It worked, but caused problems.
So my new way is probalby the best. Try it!

I sometimes get it a bit.. it's partly immaturity and singling out someone because they're different.. sometimes it's hard to brush off the taunting, you could try and be smart to them, or just go into their bedrooms and hide porn there for their mother to find.

Ignoring is probably best, though. you could try venting your frustration at the gym, or doing punching or something?

I do not have this issue, well, probably as much as a 'normal' person. I've always responded appropriately and confidently. I will walk by, head high, beaming of confidence, and many do not say anything. The minute any did they'd hear about it. If they tried to hurt me, I'd grab them, throw them down, and put some form of a lock on them. I dont believe in fighting and this is a great way to get them to shut up. Mommy and Daddy arent showing them enough love, they are weak alone.

One kid once called me fag under his breath. I walked up to him (it was on a city bus), bent over so we were at eye level, and asked him 'What did you say?'

The response was:
"Nothing"

To which I said:
"Didn't sound like it."

He then waited until I was getting off the bus (it was nearing my stop when they all happened, they waited for my friend to get off before insulting me (2 total, 1 was more support) to say 'Man, I'd have 100 friends kicking your ass'

Now, this is where I started laughing because I said:
a) Dude, you dont know 100 people
b) The fact you need 100 people says a lot of me

I got off the bus smirking. He still yelled out the window. The fact he could not reach me like I reached him was bugging him out. If I leave them feeling stupid, mission accomplished

I think I have pheromones that make kids bully me. I failed miserably at teaching Jr High kids because they walked all over me.

My solution: Teach College.

Indeed. I would be never able to teach in high school and nowadays also in elementary school. Kids and teens are not paying attention either. If you wanna stay in education, teach college. The best students in class usually have AS too.