It takes me a good while to seem capable in a social situation (but not completely comfortable/capable)- probably a few years or so. I still don't make eye contact with anyone- family or friends. I'm also quite good at faking being good at socializing; over the years I've spent observing my peers social interaction has allowed me to identify NT speech patterns; tone of voice, gestures etc. I've found a subtle way of 'faking eye contact, so that nobody notices (unless, of course they invade my personal space and stand just in close proximity of my face); I look at their nose or between their eyes, although I still have to look away in another direction, a lot in order to concentrate...I still ALWAYS manage to seem 'awkward' to both myself and others.
Although, when I meet new people, (which I hate doing, by the way) Asperger's becomes VERY apparent and I become twice as awkward as I usually am; selective mutism, no (fake) eye contact...no social interaction with them whatsoever.