Ways you tried making friends being a child

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06 Dec 2011, 5:49 pm

In third grade I wanted to have friends at school, because I saw all this "groups" together and I somehow wanted be part of it. In my class was a group of three girls from Greece and somehow I wanted to be friends with them. Though they could speak my native language perfectly, because they were born in Germany, I assumed that to become friends I would have to learn Greek. As there were no Cd-language-courses in the late 80th I was searching and found an encyclopedia with Latinisms and words with a Greek word stem. So I got obsessed about learning these words in order to be able to talk Greek, because I was hoping that would make me their friend. But I got so obsessed, that I forgot about becoming friends with them.
But I learned a lot of foreign words in Latin and Greek, the Greek ABC, by that got interested in old German scripture and developed an "own scripture" combining both.
But: I failed in my mission of making friends.

What were you trying as a child to make friends and did you succeed?


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06 Dec 2011, 6:13 pm

I didn't try to make friends. The few friends I had befriended me.


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06 Dec 2011, 6:15 pm

In grade school, I angered my peers by following them around or quietly copying their play patterns. Every friend I had in public school befriended me for pity reasons.



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06 Dec 2011, 6:15 pm

I didn't try to make friends. I wasn't aware of the concept.



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06 Dec 2011, 8:17 pm

I didn't. People approached me; if they hadn't I would have been friendless and happy with it.


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06 Dec 2011, 10:54 pm

When I began Kindergarten I discovered this boy in my class wearing thick glasses. I am not sure who approached who, but we began talking and playing. I told my parents, "I have a friend...he wears glasses." This boy became my best friend throughout school...until junior high when his father pushed him into pursuing other friends besides me. I found it too awkward to hang around him much because of all the others around him---too many people. I really didn't try to make friends...but situations came about usually because of band. I played trombone (professionally in high school) and often times upcoming band members looked up to me. One in particular became a friend of mine. We both liked computers and astronomy. On a Texas Instruments TI 99-4A computer from around 1980 he was able to cause neighbors automatic garage doors to open and close. This friend, who was a couple years younger than me, set me up on a date with a girl who was also a couple years younger than me. We dated...and dated...until after 7 years I proposed to her. We have been happily married ever since---we have two sons. So...I guess I could add that in school I obtained some friendships from others who either looked up to me or shared my interests. But I didn't go out pursuing friendships. I was always very wrapped up in my interests.


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06 Dec 2011, 11:00 pm

I didn't really try either. It just sort of happened. (Not that I ever had many friends anyway).


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06 Dec 2011, 11:11 pm

People would walk up to me and might try and play a game or something. Or they'd ask if I wanted to play. When I was 10 I just walk around with a bag full of matchbox cars and boys would just sit down next to me and play. Some students referred to them as baby toys but it bother me much.

I never tried to make friends. My first and longest friend was actually delivered in the same hospital as me. Our mothers were already friends and so they put us next to each other and we eventually got along.

I only tried to make friends in my early 20's which failed miserably until I found a group of people aged from 17-40. Although I still have some friends from my early 20's, or late teens.


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06 Dec 2011, 11:12 pm

I wasn't exactly the type to go out trying to make friends. That is, until I heard my mum and my sister's teacher talking about how "she always makes friends with the new kids" and "she's just so friendly" and I got a little jealous, so I did the same to prove I could be just as friendly as her. It doesn't really work when new kids decide to hang out with a group of people who hate you. I haven't done that since I was in primary. People talk to me, and if there's a connection, we're friends.


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07 Dec 2011, 12:18 am

i used to play something alone (like playing with a harmonica, skipping, bouncing a ball, swinging on the monkey bars) and try to look like i was having a lot of fun so that other children would be lured over. like kid traps. it worked.

i utilised a similar strategy when i was a teenager - i would sketch in the hallways at school, or do a crossword puzzles at parties.


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07 Dec 2011, 1:14 am

When I was very young, I sorta naturally made friends. Usually for male friends, it'd be the same interests, like I had one friend for the longest time in elementary who was interested in Star Trek. I had only like...1 good male friends in early elementary school. We'd talk about Star Trek...forever... And Star Wars, too. On the other hand, in elementary school, I didn't get along too well with the guys very much, until my later years, when I played some sports and they sorta accepted me into the "group" and in the process I became a huge as*hole more or less.

Before that, though, I was friends actually with a ton of the girls in my class. They pretty much loved me and loved me talking about Star Trek and stuff too, but then haters started to hate, and people tried to encourage me to be friends with the guys and by doing that naturally I was not as good friends with the girls anymore. I guess they thought I'd turn out gay or something. Ironically enough, I've not had a girlfriend ever. Thanks randomass stupid people around me for drastically improving my life. F***ers.



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07 Dec 2011, 1:32 am

Going over to kids houses and ask if they can play. We usually played at my house.

Following kids around on the playground and play on what they play on. Neither of them liked it and I became friends with two of them. My own friends at my new school didn't like it either nor in middle school.

Leaving my home and going across the street to be with the older kids. They always had to go get my mother when I refused to go home. I was three and they were maybe seven or eight. But to me, they looked like big kids.

And also kids came to me so that was a lot easier. I also wonder if lot of them were friends with me out of pity because I was special or they thought they had to be friends with me because I was a special ed student. Some kids think they have to be friends with someone when they are special needs because they take interest in them. Just like I used to think I had to like someone if they are special needs and that you can't leave someone if they have mental illnesses or disabilities, etc. because its not their fault they are that way. But nope I realized in my teens you didn't have to be nor did you have to like someone because they have a disability or a mental illness and it won;t make you a bad person nor narrow minded or ignorant.



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07 Dec 2011, 2:00 am

Yes, I would try to make friends. I'd point out or tell them something interesting, I would ask about them or I would play with them. It'd usually be about video games, sports or wrestling.



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07 Dec 2011, 2:04 am

Only way I tried to make "friends" was via BBSes and D&D. Eventually the D&D kids would kick me out because I was too nerdy even for D&D, although they liked the pictures I drew of their characters.


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07 Dec 2011, 2:39 am

I didn't really consciously try to become friends with anybody. It either just happened or it didn't.



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07 Dec 2011, 3:04 am

Burnbridge wrote:
Only way I tried to make "friends" was via BBSes and D&D. Eventually the D&D kids would kick me out because I was too nerdy even for D&D, although they liked the pictures I drew of their characters.


I guess I missed the whole 80's D&D era, I made friends through Pokemon cards or trading Pokemon cards with people. I miss the 90's and I missed the 80's all together, I wish I was born 10 years earlier so I could have at least experienced it to some degree.