artrat wrote:
Sometimes I dont know if I am being insulted or not.
When people use sarcasm it confuses me. I think people are insulting me but I am not sure.
I am really paranoid and this is part of the problem.
Some people on here have been very kind and I appreciate it.
This strategy works for me most of the time:
If I think I'm being insulted and I care about it, I'll ask for clarification. Often, it's just bad phrasing or maybe the other person misunderstood
you.
Be direct. Ask.
As far as it goes:
I try to be civil, but I probably fail and tend to say things fairly directly and bluntly and I worry that it's easy for what I'm saying to come across as confrontational or mean when I am not trying to be either. I would rather know so I can apologize and move on, and hopefully not do it again (although I will probably do it again).