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30 Dec 2011, 7:02 pm

She's an awesome friend, and I don't know if there even is a polite way of telling her she's an aspie. She's very obvious though, to the point where you'd have to be blind not to notice, but at the same time she can control her Asperger's to a certain extent. She talks in an Aspie voice, she walks in a very Aspie-ish kind of way, her facial expressions are like the Aspies I'm around constantly, and she acts very much like an Aspie (i grew up around other Aspies my whole life, a lot of my family members have Asperger's) I have no idea whether or not she actually knows she's an Aspie, I never really brought it up. Most of my Aspie friends agree she's probably an Aspie. My brother knew her since kindergarten and said she was obsessed with horses as a little kid, in a very aspie kind of way. Now she's obviosly been able to act social and more outgoing but it still shows. What do you guys think, should I ever bring it up?



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30 Dec 2011, 7:12 pm

What about her suggests she has AS?


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30 Dec 2011, 7:26 pm

I editted it for more info


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Hmmm...interesting. Shows what you know about Aspies, doesn't it rofl?

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30 Dec 2011, 7:32 pm

I wouldn't mention it unless she happens to bring it up to be honest. If she's totally unaware that she may have AS then it might freak her out a bit to put that on her. If she did suspect she has it then it seems likely that she would talk to you or her other Aspie friends about it.


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30 Dec 2011, 9:29 pm

yeah, I have a friend who I'm convinced has aspergers although he only claims to have mild ADHD (I was almost convinced this was a euphemism before I realised he was serious, he has a lot of symptoms) If someone has come up with a polite/casual way of asking I'd love to know.



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30 Dec 2011, 9:32 pm

get an online aspie test, take it, make a bunch of friends take it, then get her to take it to see what she gets in comparison to the other friends, go from there improv.


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30 Dec 2011, 10:07 pm

I have had people hint to me that I had ASD. IMO, it is best just to say it directly, and if you turn out to be wrong, just apologize for reading her wrong. I would have appreciated someone telling me this directly, as I would not figured it out myself, because I assumed that everyone was like me.



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30 Dec 2011, 10:33 pm

If I were her I'd appreciate you being straight instead of being all hint-hint about it, and being autistic she might not ever realize you're hinting at anything.

Autistics appreciate directness.


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30 Dec 2011, 10:39 pm

Your descriptions are very vague. You just say 'she's very aspie and does aspie things in a very aspie way.'
How so?
Obsession with horses I can see but it's still not enough.


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31 Dec 2011, 12:55 am

Rax wrote:
get an online aspie test, take it, make a bunch of friends take it, then get her to take it to see what she gets in comparison to the other friends, go from there improv.


Nice one