it's situation-dependent. some people who live with their parents are really living as roomies/flatmates, whereas others are living with them in sort of a overgrown child/parent relationship. there is no way to know which situation they are in without getting to know them better.
i don't place any importance on material wealth, but i woiuld want a person to have some ability to take care of ther basic needs and be independent (nobody is perfect of course). not every person can work outside the home as we all have varying levels of ability/disability, but i do expect that a person would fill their time with something productive. it could be art, research, craft projects, etc. but i don't think i could be with someone who didn't at least have goals or dreams that they were actively working towards (if they were not employed). when my former husband was a stay-at-home dad, he was also working on art and film projects.
i would definitely look closely at the person's relationship with their parents - how they interact, how much freedom the person has in the house. so it's complicated. essentially, i would take a "wait and see" approach, but keep in mind that i've been told a bunch of times on WP that my ideas apparently run counter to the norm.
if i was going to give advice about how to approach the parental living situation with potential mates i would say to be confident about it and unapologetic. simply approaching it in a matter-of-fact makes it less of a big deal. if you make excuses and talk about how you are working to change your situation, it turns it into something you are embarrassed about, and it will make the person embarrassed for you. kinda like people who make excuses for being fat and talk about how they need to start exercising again blah blah blah. the more emphasis a person puts on their supposed faults the more everyone else pays attention to them. better to just be "as you are" and be proud.
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