Being humiliated if you don't know about certain things like

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People would constantly ask each other about sex-related things in junior high, and I had no clue what they were talking about. When they asked me, I would just answer "I don't know" to questions like "Are you a virgin?". I was extremely confused at the time.

I found the perfect comeback for somebody who brings up sex inappropriately in conversation. Tell them that sex is boring unless you're doing it.

I remember when I was 10 somebody asked me if I was a virgin, I said ''no''. But that was because I thought ''virgin'' meant somebody who HAS had sex. That is probably a common mistake a lot of children make, and nobody humiliated me. The person sort of knew I didn't quite understand, and so she laughed nicely and said, ''ha, you've had sex'', but I knew she wasn't humiliating me horribly, she was just joking. She admitted that she had made that mistake the day before asking me, and had learnt from then.

Then there was Sex Ed, which started in fifth grade. The anatomical diagrams that the teachers showed us, what the fark were these things? I didn't know that I was looking at pictures of human body parts or internal organs. I had no clue what these pictures were depicting. They were just shapes to me. I didn't know why everyone else was laughing. It also took me two years to grasp the concept of menstruation. I didn't understand what the teachers were talking about when they mentioned it. I didn't grasp the concept of sex until I was in high school, even though it had been explained to me multiple times. I was utterly disgusted when I finally understood all these concepts. But how did everyone else understand them from the age of 10 or probably even earlier?

The most important thing to know about drugs and alcohol is, don't do them. What does any information about a celebrity do but occupy brain cells that could be better used for useful information? Celebrities go in out like the tides and most of them fade into oblivion like sand castles too close to the water line. Sex you should be educated about should ever plan to engage in it.



That was typical teenaged behavior on her part.



An easy mistake. Their names are similar.



The more important question is, do you care who Kate Moss is? Do you know who or what Faust is? Do you care? Should you care? And if you think you should care, why? My roommate has an interest in things pertaining to popular culture. He talks about people I've never heard of and things I've never heard of. I have an interest in science. I talk about people and things my roommate has never heard of. Neither of us particularly care.



I'm sure you can think of many people and things these individuals have never heard of.

I think the worst I got was when a classmate was talking about dressing as Elvira for Halloween, and she gave me a weird look because I didn't know who that was.

Heck, I'm a fan of both George Michael and Boy George, and even I've been known to confuse them sometimes.

Well technically, I just say the wrong name, but it's still pretty silly.

But seriously, there are also pop cultural things that get referenced around me and I haven't a clue what they're talking about. Kim Kardashian was one such example once. Then, I was forced to watch a Keeping Up With The Kardashians marathon, and found out the meaning of the phrase 'ignorance is bliss'. Although one might wonder about the nature of ignorance when you compare not knowing who the Kardashians are versus not knowing that PC Hooft is actually more beside an expensive shopping street in Amsterdam (namely, one of the greatest Dutch poets of the 17th century).

Last edited by CyclopsSummers on 15 Jan 2012, 6:02 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I don't get humiliated if I am ignorant like that. I was very ignorant about sex and the sexual terms and no one gave me a hard time about it luckily. I can remember being in 6th grade and I was told about this singer named Jack Off and I bet they were doing that to humiliate me and to make a fool out of me but I wasn't humiliated and wasn't upset about it. I thought it was all real and when I found out it was made up, I wasn't mad. In fact it backfired when I was caught looking it up online at school and I said I was trying to look the singer up the kids had been telling me about. Then the person who started it had to apologize to me. Sometimes being ignorant is so much better because then it makes it harder for the bullies to pick on you. Same as when you don't care if you don't know.

In high school I would hear kids say they slept with someone and I always thought they meant they slept in the same bed so there was me saying I slept with my dad. Luckily they knew what I meant. Mom had to tell me what they meant.

If anyone asked me questions I didn't know about, I would refuse to answer them until they told me what it meant. I always hated when they refuse to tell me and they just say to just answer yes or no. How hard it is to explain what PT means or what it means to bump. I remember being asked several times if I am PT and they wouldn't tell me what PT meant until after I answered it. I also remember being in middle school and these elementary school kids kept asking me if I like to bump. I thought it was a strange question. I still have no clue what it means. I can remember my brother telling me they were just being rude. I also remember being in high school, this girl told me in PE I should smoke weed so I can sleep better. I thought she meant real weed, not mar(I don't know how to spell it). I just thought it was weird because why would I take some weeds and smoke one? I couldn't see how that would work. Technically it does come from a weed right?


I do not understand why people would get shocked when someone is ignorant about pop culture like singers, actress, actor, things that are happening out in the world. Not everyone watches TV, not everyone watches new movies or watches new TV shows, not everyone watches the news or reads the paper, nor gossip magazines nor listen to the top 40 station. And they say we lack TOM? I swear my TOM is better than the majority and I am the one with AS?

Don't feel too bad. A girl I know of had a habit of speaking aloud before thinking. I'm told that she was in the girls-only sex ed segment (for a few days 7th grade boys and 7th grade girls had different instructors during health class), the girls were being shown a transparent model of the female reproductive internals. The instructor was demonstrating how to insert a diaphram. Poor Natalie thought this was a good time to exclaim, "Wait a minute, *mine's* bigger than that!"

I've always been pretty clued up about drugs and sex and all those other things as a younger teenager. The only thing I've often been missing out on is celebrity stuff and "classic" films that everyone likes. I know sod all about famous people and am not really bothered about them and haven't seen most of the so-called cinematic greats *shock horror gasp!! !*. I would like to watch them though just to see what all the fuss is about.

"(confusing conversation about sex),,,, Have you ever had sex?"
me: "No."
This led to a discussion of my sexuality in which my own input was ignored and eventually ended with ",,,you must be bent, mate." I felt embarrassed at the time as I was left with the impression from the conversation that most people were having sex, reinforcing my feeling of abnormality, but in retrospect I was naive and it was likely bs.

Yessir... All of the above.



My response: "No. Would you like to show me, and how much will it cost me to find out?" Sadly, when we play those kinds of games, we can end up with a lot more than we bargained for. Personally, as for prostitution, the whole concept disgusts me.



No, it isn't really all that important at all. Boy George? That would be the transvestite lead singer for Culture Club, a pop band of the '80s, who, IIRC, was also a boxer, and had some serious heroin issues. I guess he took a few more than too many punches in the ring (below the belt, mind you...)

George Michael? He was a member of Wham!, another '80s 'pop' band. Years ago, he was arrested in San Francisco, California - the homosexuality capital of the world - for masterbating in a public restroom. You "do the math" from there.



I wish I didn't know some of the things you were spared from, when it comes to drugs. You see, I embraced them as a teenager, to gain acceptance from my peers. I have since come to regret that.

Your story emphasizes that ignorance truly CAN be bliss!

Have A Great Day!

Rob

i just admit when i don't know what stuff means, people sometimes laugh but not in a humiliating way

My sister and other family members and friends seem to know more about drugs than me. I'm actually more worried about then than embarrassed by my lack of understanding. I don't know much about drugs because I don't take them. I only know about cannabis because I watched a documentary once. It was more about the evolution of the drug. Quite interesting.

Oh yes!

I am always made fun of for not knowing celebrities, band names, song names. etc. And i was once given a very awkward stare by three friends when i did not know the difference between "masturbation" and "orgasm". and until about the age of 8 did not know that there was anything physically different between males and females besides the way the looked and dressed. I just assumed everyone has a little guy down there. And the time when I mentioned the word "Period" in front of my step-mother and grandma, they told me it was a taboo word I should not say in public. and was once told that I was not a girl because apparently when females say "Fine!" it means "not fine"...

This list can go on... and on......... and on.........

On the subject of early sex ed classes, I remember being 10 years old in 5th grade and having health class once where they covered some sex ed topics with just boys, while the girls had their own separate class that day. The teacher made some comment warning us about having sex and girls becoming pregnant and the serious consequences of that, which left me confused, because up until then I didn't know that's what caused women to become pregnant. I thought it just happened randomly and spontaneously. >.<