The unpopular WP members club
I feel like its the opposite. Also I wonder if people even notice me
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~Been a bad girl, I know I am
And I’m so hot I need a fan
I don’t want a boy I need a man
I feel like its the opposite. Also I wonder if people even notice me
Yes, you have been noticed!
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I'm an extremely vulnerable person. Vulnerability and emotion are very closely linked.
I feel like its the opposite. Also I wonder if people even notice me
Yes, you have been noticed!
This makes me so happy
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~Been a bad girl, I know I am
And I’m so hot I need a fan
I don’t want a boy I need a man
I feel like its the opposite. Also I wonder if people even notice me
Yes, you have been noticed!
This makes me so happy
Your welcome..
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I'm an extremely vulnerable person. Vulnerability and emotion are very closely linked.
Definitely unpopular these days - haven't been posting in months and I doubt anyone noticed.
That's ok though - I know I can't quite get this "community" thing, it happens in the real world too. I have been going to a certain group for over a year, and people who have only been going a few weeks are already more integrated than I am. I'm definitely missing something - I think it has to do with the alexithymic lack of social emotions - affection, attachment, belonging, etc.
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Alexithymia - 147 points.
Low-Verbal.
I didn't really know people were popular/unpopular here. I thought people mostly were ignored on forums in general anyway. I think if this forum had a like function it would make others feel a lot less ignored. Probably why the psyche central forums are used more.
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The term Aspergers is no longer officially used in the UK - it is now regarded as High Functioning Autism.
Awiddershinlife
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I find that those (autistics) who are so often excluded from cliques ITRW, are uber-cliquish in these forums.
They clique around any number of 'seed crystals': narrow interests, gender, age, political view, education, etc. I am pleased that autic-cliquers have found happiness, but they subtly exclude others by selectively responding to those in their clique....leaving those of us for whom cliques trigger claustrophobia few to have conversations with.
I feel like I am only talking to myself, and I don't need a forum to do that.
That's one theory for feeling unpopular: you are in a clique of one.
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Awiddershinlife
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That's ok though - I know I can't quite get this "community" thing, it happens in the real world too. I have been going to a certain group for over a year, and people who have only been going a few weeks are already more integrated than I am. I'm definitely missing something - I think it has to do with the alexithymic lack of social emotions - affection, attachment, belonging, etc.
You can see how long I've been here - but always talking to myself.
I don't believe the lies the "experts" put on autistics (what you call alexithymic characteristics), but I use their beliefs to better understand how neurotypicals perceive us anthropologically - to navigate the world they control (i.e. TRW) with enough success to bring home a paycheck.
Like you, I expected more social connections on these autism forums, but they were all the same. I don't know if the others have even survived over time.
I have embraced my solitude.
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Like you, I expected more social connections on these autism forums, but they were all the same. I don't know if the others have even survived over time.
I have embraced my solitude.
I don't necessarily believe these things are "lies" invented by peoples neurotypical or otherwise - alexithymic is just a word, to describe someone who perceives and behaves as I do. Like the word / classification "autistic" itself in some ways. Just a symbol to better understand or describe one's experience.
I'm not sure I expect more social connections per se, or had many expectations at all - I guess I just observe that I am removed from social interaction much online (as I only post here, am not on social media, so can't really judge social connections on those platforms) coupled with observing the swift integration of comparatively new attendees in the group I attend in the real world, as opposed to my own separation, even though I have been there much longer.
I certainly don't mind solitude - I'm one of those people who needs it in fact, but at times I wonder if I'm missing something, being unable to form attachments, connections, etc.
You've certainly been here a while - have you been taking breaks from posting every so often though? I ended up not posting here for months - not because of any particular reason, just lost interest for a while, or got out of the way of it.
But hey, here we are, responding to each other rather than talking to ourselves.
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Alexithymia - 147 points.
Low-Verbal.
Awiddershinlife
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Like you, I expected more social connections on these autism forums, but they were all the same. I don't know if the others have even survived over time.
I have embraced my solitude.
I don't necessarily believe these things are "lies" invented by peoples neurotypical or otherwise - alexithymic is just a word, to describe someone who perceives and behaves as I do. Like the word / classification "autistic" itself in some ways. Just a symbol to better understand or describe one's experience.
I certainly don't mind solitude - I'm one of those people who needs it in fact, but at times I wonder if I'm missing something, being unable to form attachments, connections, etc.
You've certainly been here a while - have you been taking breaks from posting every so often though? .
But hey, here we are, responding to each other rather than talking to ourselves.
I have an aversion to how shrinks describe me. Their whole purpose is to identify pathology. It breeds negativity and I believe it is untruth.
I have more recently bought into the Myers-Briggs approach. They are scorned by the APA for not being scientists (they were housewives). But most women were at that time, even the brilliant ones. I would be an INTP in their system.
Its a subtle difference in presentation between describing and pathologizing, but offensive to me - just who I am. There is also a lot of info for each personality for those who are interested in introspection.
I also thought I must be missing something, but I have a rich professional life working in a "helping profession" and I finally realized that while I love everybody, I don't really like anybody. I do get lonely sometimes, but a forum like this is enough these days.
Right back at you, C2V
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I have more recently bought into the Myers-Briggs approach. They are scorned by the APA for not being scientists (they were housewives). But most women were at that time, even the brilliant ones. I would be an INTP in their system.
Its a subtle difference in presentation between describing and pathologizing, but offensive to me - just who I am. There is also a lot of info for each personality for those who are interested in introspection.
That makes sense. I too have disagreements with the pathologizing of difference - I don't believe Gender Identity Disorder is a mental disorder at all, for example, as it is cured by physical means. So I can understand the aversion to being told you are sick, when you consider it just who you are.
It's interesting about the psychological profession though - I have a knack, of sorts, for being unclassifiable. Which means psychometric testing doesn't work with me - they have to date decided what I wanted them to decide, several times, often in completely contradictory directions. It does not inspire much respect for the profession, and thus I don't take their views seriously enough to be offended by them so long as they are not in my way. People can believe what they wish.
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Alexithymia - 147 points.
Low-Verbal.
Awiddershinlife
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Good point!
It is just a behavioral description, and in a sense, not "real". I think especially with autism, there doesn't seem to be any physical evidence uniting the population. Research has also confounded it by adding genetic presentations like fragile x to the mix.
I don't follow the research like I used to so they may be newer information than I am aware of.
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