Casual Sex, Yes Or No?

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Just curious, who here is for and against casual sex and why?

Honestly, my vote has to go for unsure. One brain says yes, one brain says no.

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Just for the sake of clarity, I'm asking about whether you personally feel it's right for you.

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No. Why? Because I've been there and it comes with complications I don't have the energy to deal with.

More than that, I don't want emotionless sex. It bores me now.

Ask me after a few beers

Why not really. I understand if you have a connection between love and sex then casual sex might be bad.

I could have casual sex with someone as long as I would jump into the subway pit to lift them out after they'd fainted and fallen into it as a train was coming in at high speed.

I do have that connection, to an extent. It's very confusing.

Not for me. I wouldn't condone others for it, but I doubt I'd be able to feel comfortable with those I didn't feel anything for or trust.

I can hardy stand to be touched by people I trust, let alone total strangers. (And no, there is no bra size that makes that different.)

Yes. But a lot of people have casual sex for entirely the wrong reasons. If you just want to get off and you find someone else who wants the same, great. But, from what I've seen, there is a tendency among women to have sex with a man (who wants nothing more than sex) in a misguided attempt to make him like her. And there is a tendency among men to have sex (whether he actually wants to or not) with anyone they find willing, because they feel that not having sex makes them less masculine.

No. Sex is special to me, even kissing. I can't be intimate without love, i can't seperate sex from love. I can't let someone that close to me unless i really love him.

What other people feel they need to do with their lives, as long as nobody gets hurt, is fine with me. I honestly practice live and let live. I don't judge until someone elses rights are violated.

On another thread I have learned a new word for someone like myself and most of the people here. It is Demisexual.

In Avenwiki; http://www.asexuality.org/wiki/index.ph ... Demisexual

I like this passage the best:
"When describing demisexuality as an orientation to sexuals, sexuals often mistake it as an admirable choice rather than an innate orientation. Demisexuals are not choosing to abstain; they simply lack sexual attraction until a close relationship is formed."

I have tried casual sex and I find that I simply cannot feel what is happening to me. But when with someone I love or am infatuated with, I am hypersensitive. Every touch is arousing.

(Hey, at my age, who cares about "reputation"?)

Interesting.

I dream of one day reaching the age of not caring what people think, for now it's just an ideal I can't quite reach.

Isn't that out of "While you were Sleeping"?

Or another Sandra Bullock film:
How about after stopping a terrorist from blowing up a speeding bus?

How I wish I was Sandra Bullock:
Keanu Reeves would not be casual for me!! He has been my dream since the first time I saw him in a movie. Well, maybe not "Bill and Ted" so much.

There is no "age" to reach to become an independent thinker. When you start thinking for yourself, chances are your thinking won't be much different than morals would dictate, but taking ownership of those morals will make you feel better about yourself. You might be surprised what you can come up with one idea at a time. If you start now, you just might achieve it by the time you are 90....but don;t forget to learn from other's mistakes. You'll never live long enough to make them all on your own.

I have a favorite philosophy about my ages:

Having a lot of sexual partners
When you are in your 20's makes you a slut
When you are in your 30's it makes you desperate.
In your 40's it is impossible (menopause)
When you are in your 50's it makes you LUCKY.


I am very verbose tonight, but I am in a great mood so please excuse me.

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It's all good, I like to read

Read it again?...I edited it. LOL