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30 Jul 2012, 10:12 am

Agreed with GiantHockeyFan and GoldCoinLover. And the worst part is, it doesn't seem to get better later on either.


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30 Jul 2012, 11:20 am

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I don't get why girls from the Phillipines, etc, check out my profile... prospecting for Canadian citizenship??


I thought that but I also get visitors from 'rich' countries like Germany and USA. I think it's got to do with the fact they are just looking at the tall guys in my situation. Not for a relationship, just to see if I really exist. Last time I checked it did.



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30 Jul 2012, 1:48 pm

Im on Ok cupid but I seem to be having more luck on aspergers dating site and autistic dating site

http://www.autisticdating.net/

http://www.aspergersdatingsite.com

I still find all three of these websites have mostly members who are never online and most of them live in the UK or California and since I live in Ontario it's very distant but I still think online chat works.



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30 Jul 2012, 1:58 pm

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I don't get why girls from the Phillipines, etc, check out my profile... prospecting for Canadian citizenship??


If you were a woman in the Philippines (or Russia), you too would be hitting up online dating sites for American/Canadian guys. This is for a number of reasons, in what I think in most cases is descending order of importance:

1. Much higher likelihood of finding a decent guy who is stable and treats you well. The competition for these types of guys in second/third world countries is fierce.
2. Get yourself out of poverty.
3. Raise your future kids in a cleaner, more advanced country.

All of these reasons are serious, and justify drastic action like moving around the world to be with a guy you haven't met.

There are also a few who might run the whole thing as a moneymaking scam.



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30 Jul 2012, 2:50 pm

Okay, how the hell do you navigate the Aspie Affections search site?

It's horrible in terms of half loading and stuff...


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30 Jul 2012, 3:24 pm

CrazyStarlightRedux wrote:
Okay, how the hell do you navigate the Aspie Affections search site?

It's horrible in terms of half loading and stuff...


I don't think you really can.



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31 Jul 2012, 2:04 am

Eharmony= lots of nice but very plain or unattractive and/or obese women. Met 4 women 4-5 years ago. Not attracted to any of them. I was on a total of about 18 months. I won't go back again.
Match= not quite as bad as eharmony but didn't get a single date. Very very few messages. I was on about 15 months.
POF= since about March. I think 99.99% of all the good looking women got married before they were 30 and the rest have either never married or have married/divorced and gained 100 or more pounds. I think a lot of women's looks go away between ages 40 and 45. I can't kiss or marry a woman I'm not attracted to. I have gotten very few messages from women that don't interest me and that is it.
Okcupid= about 2 months now. More messages from more women I'm not attracted to and/or they are obese. Obesity in women is a HUGE turn off to me (no pun intended).
I'm not really sure what I see that is worse: dealing with the IRS, getting my teeth drilled, or trying to end this state of being single and lonely.


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31 Jul 2012, 2:51 am

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Eharmony= lots of nice but very plain or unattractive and/or obese women. Met 4 women 4-5 years ago. Not attracted to any of them. I was on a total of about 18 months. I won't go back again.
Match= not quite as bad as eharmony but didn't get a single date. Very very few messages. I was on about 15 months.
POF= since about March. I think 99.99% of all the good looking women got married before they were 30 and the rest have either never married or have married/divorced and gained 100 or more pounds. I think a lot of women's looks go away between ages 40 and 45. I can't kiss or marry a woman I'm not attracted to. I have gotten very few messages from women that don't interest me and that is it.
Okcupid= about 2 months now. More messages from more women I'm not attracted to and/or they are obese. Obesity in women is a HUGE turn off to me (no pun intended).
I'm not really sure what I see that is worse: dealing with the IRS, getting my teeth drilled, or trying to end this state of being single and lonely.


You need to move to a different city. Chicago is not that far from you. In MN, you are going to get nothing but obese women, too many guys competing for the few who are not obese. Even if you land one, you will be lucky if she isn't trouble. Makes me wonder why the obese ones don't just stop being obese. I know there was a discussion about that subject in another thread, but I don't accept that it's "too hard" unless the person has a gland issue. Things are not "too hard" when someone gives a s**t. I have had very little luck with online dating outside NY, Toronto and Chicago. I'm sure there are cities in California with a decent selection as well. Edit: Also Washington, DC.

At your age, perhaps the most prudent thing to do would actually be to join one of those Anastasia Russian bride "trips". No, I'm serious. They need a guy without the Russian baggage and you need a woman without the American baggage. Match made in heaven.



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31 Jul 2012, 5:29 am

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I don't think you really can.


I don't see the point of it then...as it's not very good at navigation.


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19 Sep 2012, 5:19 pm

I just joined..... sorry to bring this up again.


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19 Sep 2012, 7:36 pm

I set up a profile not too long ago, it's actually gone pretty well for me. Already met someone in person and things are going well, going to his place on Saturday. Exciting! Also met a few new friends/penpals/etc.

Here's my profile if anyone's curious.



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19 Sep 2012, 11:08 pm

Rorberyllium wrote:
I set up a profile not too long ago, it's actually gone pretty well for me. Already met someone in person and things are going well, going to his place on Saturday. Exciting! Also met a few new friends/penpals/etc.

Here's my profile if anyone's curious.


Had a view of your profile, it's pretty good and eccentric which stands out from a majority of generic profiles. I agree about living in a city as well, in my area there aren't many members that are active but new members do join up from the Kent area so there's always someone new.

Here's my profile if anyone wants to check it out.



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19 Sep 2012, 11:13 pm

I have my profile set to block people more than 75 miles from me.

Not trying to need to mount an expedition to go on a date.



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19 Sep 2012, 11:14 pm

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I have my profile set to block people more than 75 miles from me.

Not trying to need to mount an expedition to go on a date.


I must admit 75 miles is still a long way to travel for a date and I doubt it would travel that far unless there was a real connection online with the girl first.



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20 Sep 2012, 12:08 am

how long do you guys usually talk to girls before asking them to hang out....with some girls i wait too long and they become disinterested..then i as others immediately and they call me a creep lol.

In the end it doesn't matter bc any first dates ive had , ive never gotten a second lol.


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20 Sep 2012, 12:14 am

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how long do you guys usually talk to girls before asking them to hang out....with some girls i wait too long and they become disinterested..then i as others immediately and they call me a creep lol.

In the end it doesn't matter bc any first dates ive had , ive never gotten a second lol.


Get a decent conversation or two, get their number and ask for a date. Sounds tough but keep trying, that's why building an emotional connection is better than a physical one but online dating is so based on physical attraction that it makes it more difficult to build a connection based on personality.