Here is photo of me...am I attractive , soso, cute, ugly?

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You look very good. Almost attractive - for my tastes.

I'm not Asian. I am of English/Irish/Scottish genetic descent.

You are probably of a similar anthropological type to me.

I think you are actually pretty good looking, face-wise. Your nose and ears don't stick out or look odd, you have nice eyes, your face is symmetrical and you have a friendly look.

You seem tall and relatively skinny - which is also good.

I judged by looking at the two photos you linked to (one with the buddha in the distance and one on a picnic bench).

What is the 'profile' to which everyone is referring?

I think I saw this thread back in Feb when it was first going on, but I was picky about the threads I was reading at the time, so I probably skipped over this one. Since it's been re-born...

Alienboy, you look like a cutie to me, and I'm not Asian, and I'm also taking into account the first two pics you linked in this thread, although the main profile pic is a much better selection for that space. I didn't see your POF profile before, but everything in it looks great now. Heck, I'm pretty sure I would date you if you didn't mind the age difference. You mention quite a lot of things that I find interesting. It looks like you just needed some tweaking on things to bring out your strong points. You've done a good job with that.

How's the dating going now?

Why did you make a topic purely about your photo?

Okay, I only read the first couple of pages, so apologies if I'm repeating what others said, but here goes:

Firstly, you look better in the first picture. Your face is attractive enough- a little sharp looking, but many people like that.
If I was flicking through a bunch of pictures, I would personally not stop at yours. You look kind of skinny in the second picture- this could be a reason why Asian women like you but western women do not, as no female wants to be bigger than her boyfriend (gender roles etc) and generally Asian women are much more petite than western women. I also know that Asian women look for different qualities in men- they generally are looking for stable long term relationships with dependable men- ie- 'nice guys', whereas western women look for more of an 'edge', or some unknown, unstable element like mystery etc.

Another big issue is clothing- I know someone mentioned something about clothing and you felt it was irrelevant- but it really IS relevant. There are many average/almost ugly guys who look hot because of how they dress. Clothing is your chance to put yourself across to someone and show off your personality (someone said they are attracted to people who have specific interests- how you dress can portray that, and so you appeal to women through your personality as well as looks) and enhance what you have. Your jeans in the second photo are neither baggy nor skinny, and they probably make you look a lot slimmer than you are, hence you are underselling yourself.

Your clothes are practical, and this may come across to some people as 'boring', since practicality CAN be boring and safe.
Some people may say that caring about how you dress is vain and shallow, but as I see it, it is in fact a way for people to say a little more about themselves, and a chance for people to generally 'level-out' in terms of attractiveness- people may not be born with the most handsome symmetrical chiselled face, but if you dress the right way, you can portray your masculinity all the same, which I think is a good thing.

Have a look at some men who are considered attractive and observe how they dress (rockstars in bands, film stars, or even just random mens fashion magazines) and you might see what I mean. Their clothes portray confidence, and that's what western women find attractive.

I think your face is definitely attractive, you just need to work a little on the other elements that people on dating sites, or out in short social scenarios might see

Yeah, this whole 'thread' is kinda strange. If I posted a whole thread saying people don't find me attractive enough, I would feel kinda vain, but I understand because you weren't getting any reactions and not any positive or meaningful feedback. You remind me of me with how you look, and I'm thinking maybe it's because you're thin, not built, so you don't fit the typical american girl thing, like me. I've never had an asian g/f though, and I don't think you should be complaining about them finding you so attractive. Also, you teach and get to travel around? Who cares about your looks, I wish I had a life where I could go live where I wanted and travel around. I'd love a job with the kind of time off teacher's have as well. Several girls here have said you're cute, and I think you should be glad about that. I think the most I can hope for is cute too. If you're more muscular/manly, you could hope for more though.

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Ok this goes right back to the Asian phenomenon I mentioned in my original post. Almost every Asian woman I meet says that I am super handsome and cute, etc. Yet practically all non-Asian women say things like I am average-looking? What exactly does this mean? What constitutes "average"? What attributes are average? My clothing? My face? My smile? I took that photo in China for gosh sakes. I traveled around more than half of east/southeast Asia and I am only 28 years old...I am anything but an average guy![/quote]

What it means is that different women find different men attractive for different reasons. My first serious relationship was with a guy that everyone thought I was crazy for dating. He had severe acne and was quite a nerd but I thought he was attractive; he made me laugh and he was smart. My current bf (Aspie) is considered extremely handsome by everyone I know except my mother. She found him to be very unappealing. So, it's more than just a look.

You're attractive. I love it when guys wear cool hats

I think you are attractive and I am a girl.