Hyper-sexuality. Obsessed with sex.

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Unreal !

I had it heck that this wasn't one of my posts ! !

You've described me completely apart from being embarrassed about being sex mad . Why embarrassed ??

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Bonne bourre !

I had that problem when I was a teenager, unbeknownst to my parents. I would recommend to tell her that sex goes both ways (even though you can choose, as an adult, to give, and not take, but that's a consenting grown up thing to do); you should also demonstrate warmth and physical affection to her, if she wants it. My own parents were distant towards me and they embraced me, but just as if it was a passing thing. A psychiatrist and an OB gyn can help, at least to avoid lasting consequences and to work on behavioral issues.

I can tell you that I did okay if that can reassure you. I never got in any real trouble but it was before the Internet. It also helped to focus on my school work and to dress better, to smile (even though it did quite a number on me), to be a more stereotypical woman, so to say. But, at some point, I managed to like myself better and to view sex as it is. I think , even though I am slightly more sex driven than many people, I have a safer sex life. You should beconfident and try to educate her, if you can't stop her.

I can relate - I delayed having sex until my mid-twenties, but I knew once the cork was popped, I would want it all the time. A decade later, I'm still hyper-sexual, but I do my best not to show it or actively show interest in others because I don't want to objectify them.

This is an interesting and appreciated topic for me, as I viewed myself as hypersexual for a long time. I had a lot of sex with a lot of people, but seemed to miss out on aspects of intimacy that were important to my partners. This led to friction and often hurtful endings to otherwise happy relationships/friendships. I began to experiment with stimulants, and discovered a rather enjoyable aspect of sex without partners, and thus without drama and feelings of letting others down. I would use the stimulant(s) a few times per year, and in those times be very hypersexual. As for the other 80-90% of the year, I would be asexual (in principle). Meaning: I could appreciate the attractiveness of others, and simultaneously have no desire to have sex with them.

This simplified my life a great deal, and I settled into a contentment with my sexuality, minus the problems. I could focus on other aspects of life and enjoy them more. I am not advocating drug use. Many people have problems with substance abuse, and I think that's unfortunate.

The problem now is that I am back together with my wife, who knows about feeling on this. She is also very against drug use, so I cannot live how I did while we were separated. We have no sex life together, and I sometimes feel very guilty that I am asking her to share a life with someone having autism, as well as not having sex. I believe this is somehow unfair to her, but she assures me that she wants to stay together, and work through things.I am unsure how to do this, but I have a feeling I will have to change my perspective again, and revert back to a person who has constant sexual thoughts. Because I love her, and do not want to lose her.

I'm an Aspie guy , a one-woman man , extremely happily married for decades to a very special , kind , generous to a fault , non- Aspie woman .

All that said , my eyes are constantly attracted to pretty ladies , great bodies or whatever . I just look though , and a lovely warmth guess through me when I see stunning looking woman . I even get easily fixated on gorgeous women on telly like Charlize Theron for example . It's something I've done since I was very young , my first girlfriend was when I was 8 years old and no other lads were bothered . By the age of ten I was even jealous if a girl I liked - talked to another lad . At high school as a teen they called me 'radar' as when a gang of us lads were Walsh home through the shopping precinct I was by far the best at spotting the tasty looking girls- it just came naturally somehow . Pretty useless skill though .

My wife does occasional notice if my eyes are straying but she's very understanding , thankfully . It goes both ways as sometimes she'll say look at the gorgeous guy and I just smile at her ..


As regards pornigraphy though , we are poles apart . As a hyper sexual Aspie I find watching pornography absolutely vital to my existance . On the odd occasion my better half isn't in the mood or she's not well or too tired I simply watch some porn and take matters in my own hand so to speak - it's a satisfactory release of tensions . I don't watch any porn that shows any violence or abuse aimed at women or belittles them or anything and watching porn doesn't make me feel any different towards women in any way whatsoever .

Unfortunately once a girl gets to be a certain age (like 16 or so) there's not a lot you can actually do. She's definitely putting herself in some bad situations, but if you want to help her she has to want to be helped.

spirituality can calm her
meditation,
praying,
chanting

Given her circumstances and what she's doing now I'd go into the school immediately and get some arrangement in place , she could have a one to one assistant by her side all the time she's in school so she's never alone with any boys .

The school would have no choice but to assist you as they're legally liable for her safety .

This is me apart from the fact that I just had a lot of sex with a lot of people, male and female... Especially the smell part. A good smelling man can make me go crazy even if I don't like his personality of physical appearance. I feel like a such a predator. Its good that all my friends are all also really open about sex otherwise I would just feel like a creepy molester... It doens't help either that I usually like 19-20 year olds while I'm 24... I don't know what to do...

For me, this problem rears its ugly head every once in awhile, but I have figured out ways to get over it, like keeping myself busy with my favorite hobbies and whatnot.

I don't get why with adults, "protection" is (almost) always the name of the game with girls in regard to sex. I get that pregnancy is a bad thing, but as long as she knows how to be sexual while avoiding that (and there are many ways to do that), then I don't see what the problem is. Aside from the moralists who would seek to make it one.

On the other hand, I don't think that there should even be such a concept as "sex crimes". Yes, there are forms of aggression that involve sex, but there are also forms of aggression that involve breaking legs and arms, yet we don't have "leg crimes" or "arm crimes" to deal with that--we just have assault which is a crime no matter what body part of the victim it's directed toward.

I've had this problem since my teens. Maybe part of it was a form of over-compensation (I.e. I can't make friends with girls but I can attract boys so I must have value/ be "normal") Unfortunately this got me into trouble a lot and usually I wouldn't realize I had been taken advantage of until after the fact. Eventually I came to accept that it was the "best I could do" or so I thought.. then drugs entered a picture and things really became a nightmare... thank god I don't have any diseases and that I'm still alive. I wonder if other females with AS have used their sexuality as a social-compensation tool..?

I've always been hyper-sexual, although I did not have sex until I was 17 yrs old because I had lots of insecurities and social awkwardness as well lol. I'm 35 now and they say this is the "peak," well not so much a peak as in it shouldn't taper down too much, but it's the point where a woman is most comfortable with her body and sexuality and I have to agree. I have never enjoyed sex so much in my life before. I've always been a chronic masturbator (as far back as I can remember), but sex wasn't as enjoyable for me as it has been the last few years. Yeah, not sure what my point is but to say, I relate to hyper-sexuality