I am attracted to rejections

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18 Apr 2012, 8:17 pm

Yep, I am very attracted to rejections from girls. I am not desperate. I can't date at all since rejections kept happening all the time. I don't understand why a very nice and good guy deserved to get rejected all the time? The only time I had a girl that she was desperate for a boyfriend. But never afterwards.

What's going on?

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18 Apr 2012, 8:23 pm

What's going on is people are blind.

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18 Apr 2012, 9:58 pm

I don't understand your point. You mean unintentionally blind?

Good and nice guys are attractive. That where girls suppose to see as they want it attractive. Thats what I thought...

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18 Apr 2012, 10:29 pm

Rejection is attracted to me. And in more ways than just sexual

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18 Apr 2012, 10:39 pm

MXH wrote:

Rejection is attracted to me. And in more ways than just sexual

I didn't include sexual stuff at all because I knew it is inappropriate. That what I have learnt.

Now its about alcohol which take part, sexual acceptance as doing inappropriate make alcohol looks more relevant.

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19 Apr 2012, 3:21 am

Nice! It's so easy to satisfy this fetish of yours, you're a lucky man.

Just eat plenty of garlic and go around asking girls out.

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19 Apr 2012, 5:58 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Nice! It's so easy to satisfy this fetish of yours, you're a lucky man.

Just eat plenty of garlic and go around asking girls out.

How I am lucky?

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19 Apr 2012, 1:05 pm

MXH wrote:

Rejection is attracted to me. And in more ways than just sexual

As the late great comedian Rodney Dangerfield would say~
"I tell ya when I was a kid, all I knew was rejection. My yo-yo, it never came back!"

I tad more seriously. I felt like that before because my different Aspie issues got misinterpreted, made me misinterpret women or made me seem unattractive to women. I really believed that if the woman would take the time to get to know me & give me a real chance she would like me because I had a lot of great qualities to offer if I had a real shot to offer them. I don't have any advice for you at the moment because I lucked out & a couple women here on WP were interested in me from my posting. I can offer my sympathies thou & tell you you & anyone else is welcome to PM me if having someone to listen to you rant or chat with would help you feel better or anything

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19 Apr 2012, 11:41 pm

Sorry I didn't understand what you mean ^^^

I reread it twice and still hasn't got your point.

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20 Apr 2012, 1:06 am

AussieMatty wrote:

The trouble is that you are letting your kindness make you a people pleaser, you are so worried about validation that they can smell it and it affects your confidence level. You need to develop assertiveness and start caring less what they think, take more value yourself and act like you have something to offer which you do.

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20 Apr 2012, 1:19 am

Wolfheart wrote:

AussieMatty wrote:

Why it has to be this way? I thought it suppose to be other way around because it show them I am a better and nicer polite kind of person.

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20 Apr 2012, 1:30 am

AussieMatty wrote:

Wolfheart wrote:

AussieMatty wrote:

Why it has to be this way? I thought it suppose to be other way around because it show them I am a better and nicer polite kind of person.

That doesn't mean you should be a jerk by any means, being nice is a good trait but you need to learn to be more assertive in yourself which will help in different aspects, including dating. Confidence and assertiveness are the main two factors of what you need and cognitive behavioural therapy is a great way to build those traits.

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20 Apr 2012, 5:13 am

Wolfheart wrote:

AussieMatty wrote:

Wolfheart wrote:

AussieMatty wrote:

Why it has to be this way? I thought it suppose to be other way around because it show them I am a better and nicer polite kind of person.

Hate to say this, could you show some examples of assertive situations? I am a little confused between assertiveness and confidence.

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20 Apr 2012, 6:46 am

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt196183.html

Here's a new thread I've created on the matter, developing more assertiveness. I will add a few more scenarios later in the thread which you can be more assertive.

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