Can somebody please explain the feeling of it being right?

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I don't think it's really fair to discount the OP completely. I'm not diagnosed with AS yet but I can understand these feelings and can differentiate them from the feeling of enjoying routine. I also have a friend who's HFA and can also relate to such feelings. I believe it could be possible it's something some autistics experience while others don't. A wanting for routine could be the component that drives OCD minus the anxiety, but for some people on the spectrum the anxiety may not be fully removed. I know I have some OCD tendencies like checking and re-checking the locks before leaving and engaging in small rituals before doing certain things, but I did that more as a kid and the majority of those compulsions are gone now, although I still have a few. I still have a liking for routine though and can differentiate these feelings from those that go along with my compulsions. I also don't have a fear of something bad happening if I don't engage myself in rituals. I like listening to the same songs, and dressing the same way, and doing things at a certain time. So maybe the two feelings aren't completely exclusive of each other. Just my two cents.

Okay, katwithhat, I'll do my best to explain how I see it.

When people say something doesn't "feel right", they usually have a logical reason for feeling that way that they are just unable to articulate.

Perhaps you like the McDonalds that is farther because they get the orders right more often, or they have better hours, or a nicer staff. Maybe you just had a good experience there at some point, and that makes you feel safe in a place that would otherwise give you undue stress or hyperawareness. Like one of the posters already said, Aspies love familiarity, we want to be able to predict what will happen.

The same could be said about doing your hair before your makeup. Perhaps you have developed a mental picture of yourself based on that routine, and seeing that routine out of order distorts that mental image. It's all about familiarity.

These feelings don't necessarily have to reflect reality. Perhaps the McDonalds you like has nothing special about it at all, and your hair and makeup probably look the same no matter which one is started first. It is still logical when you take into account a person's insecurities and mindset. If your goal is to make yourself look as good as possible, why would you not stick with the routine that compliments your mental image? If you often get intimidated in new places due to a social disability, why would you not go to the McDonalds you are used to?

I wonder, do you do it because it's "right?" Like, were you taught as a kid to do things in a certain order and now, it's just "right?" The other order is "wrong."
I tend to take things as moral as they get. If I read that you're supposed to put on socks before jeans, then I feel morally obligated to do so. It makes no sense, it just is. I have to be careful what I read, because of stuff like that.

Another thought is, do you do it because it makes more sense? It seems more efficient? You're calmer? Maybe the drive to the further Mcdonalds has less traffic, so it's less stressful, or it's more practical to do your hair before your makeup to get it out of your face?