Are autie and aspie guys seen as "faux nice guys"

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I believe it to be so if NT women (focusing on those that are unaware of autism rather than NT women who do) identify behaviours wrongly.
In my case... maybe I am seen as a faux nice guy... wanting to be bedded and treat them badly.
Not saying I am as I know I'm not... well not all of what classifies as a "faux nice guy", sure I could exhibit some of that behaviour... perhaps unknowingly but it's a bit unjust if this is the case.
Anyone else think this is possible or am I overthinking it?

Title is supposed to be "Are autie and aspie guys seen as "faux nice guys" by NT women?"

I'm actually waiting for the moment when they say the "Joker" killer in the Colorado Batman movie theater is on the spectrum. Only a matter of time...

Yeah, Robin

OP. I don't think they only believe this but to a certain degree, they are usually right. How many times have you seem someone waltz into L&D with an entitlement complex or severely missing the point about why people don't like them?

Women usually just think I'm rude.
The difference between rude and socially attractive is that I'm not attractive in other ways.

I've lost count to be honest.

It seems like women don't have any particular hatred against me or anything like that. I think the only problem is I come off "freaky" at times. But, if you spin that around it's "mysterious" or something. I mean I've gotten hit on by women, though, so I can't be that bad off, especially since those are only the times that were obvious. I'm pretty oblivious to when females flirt, so... yeah.

I think to a point, though, I remember I was on vacation and not feeling good mentally, and a girl asked to borrow my phone. She called her f*****g drug dealer with it. So I see it less of a "nice guy" and more as "take advantage of" guy. Maybe she just randomly targeted me, or maybe my demeanor was part of her targeting process, but yeah.

I think the main problem is, good or bad, I come off as an alien. Hopefully it's good like in that Katy Perry song.

Good as in the context rather than the song...

In the context which you speak, yes in many cases they are seen as faux nice guys. However, in high school at least, the assumption is that all guys are the same and all girls are the same, partly because of the shallowness, and partly because most high schoolers aren't mature enough to be able to read people's intentions very well. Also, I would say that a good chunk of autie and aspie guys are guilty as charged. I was about half and half, and I was treated as such.

Yes, I meant the context, but that song is about the only Katy Perry song I find listenable. Guilty pleasure I guess.

If that ends up being the case, then I fear for how people who know I have it will treat me.

i liked teenage dream a bit.

I am seen as a "Nice Guy" on-line but my biggest issue with NT females? They find me "creepy" or weird. That of course, is a turn-off. Unfortunately I get this reaction from girls woh do not even know me.
It bloody hurts!

Sincerely,
Matthew

I sometimes get it too, but I find half the blame goes to them for not asking questions or refusing to take the time to understand why I may be different. Where it is my fault? I am not doing enough to make myself appear relaxed and normal.

While I've never been told this I'm starting to strongly suspect it. Just about everyone I know likes me but ONLY once they get to know me. A few women admitted they didn't know how to take me at first but nobody has used the "c" word yet. What's frustrating of all, especially in this modern era is how few women will take the time to get to know me but will just make quick judgments and refuse to deviate from them.

Not all of them.

If you are a faux nice guy, you would know it. Are you respectful of women with the hope of getting a relationship in return?